- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I feel weird posting about this here, but I didn’t know where else to vent about it.
The Mr and I had our civil marriage ceremony yesterday. We dressed up a little and it was nice and fun – we had a friend take a few photos.
The Mr’s parents didn’t take it seriously at all because we are having our Jewish wedding and reception later down the track. We posted about the marriage on FB regardless straight after and his mother got all cranky and upset and said she doesn’t get why people have to know about the civil wedding.
Regardless, I sent some of the photos through to them. They didn’t reply to me and then they got on Skype with my new husband and the Mr joked that we both felt fat in the photos and his dad said ‘yeah, you have both gotten fat since you moved to the US’. I interjected and said that I wanted it on the record that I have already been dieting and exercising to lose the weight I have gained in the last year (thanks to a back injury and being on steroids thankyouverymuch) and his dad goes ‘Sorry, Hannah, you’re just fat.’.
I am so hurt. I don’t know why it even surprises me, his dad is the most insensitive person I have ever met in my life, and has caused significant tension in our relationship but it just isn’t okay. To make it worse, the Mr’s mum and sister are like 5 foot tall (I am 5’7) and skinny because they barely eat, so I feel ugly around them most of the time anyway. Not one of them bothered to say congratulations or we love you. Nothing.
The Mr. just said to ignore him and that’s just how he is. He told me that yeah, I have gained weight, but I am beautiful to him no matter what and not to worry about it. For me, I have always struggled with my weight and disordered eating so it really just compounded the fact that I already hated how I looked in the photos.
I was a size 4 when we met and his parents went on about how pretty I was blah blah blah. I am more like a 6-8 now and it’s like I am morbidly obese. I don’t carry any extra weight well, it’s just how it is, but I just feel awful.
Am I being a baby, or was it really nasty of him to push the point and call me fat?
And to make me feel better, here’s a wedding photo 🙂