Father-In-Law Chose Our Honeymoon Hotel…and Booked It

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you should suck it up (in your words)! That is very very generous of them.  You can plan a weekend at the small hotel for your first anniversary! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I’d accept the gift and either extend the stay for a few days so you can try the hotel you were interested in, or make another trip and stay at your hotel of choice. 

But if your FFIL is the type to lord his generosity over people’s heads in the future I wouldn’t take anything from him…but unless your FI gives you a heads up I suppose you wouldn’t know! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would graciously accept their generous offer!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@marie_antoinette:  I vote for stay where you want to stay and pay for it yourselves.  If you can’t afford to, stay where he wants to send you.  It sounds like he doesn’t want to pay for your hotel, he just wants to gift you his points.  It’s not like they’re going to waste if you don’t use them.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@marie_antoinette:  if you want to stay at a different hotel and decide to “stand your ground” you and your fiancé need to pay for it. You cannot dictate what someone else give you as a gift. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Suck it up! Enjoy the free hotel, honey. Not to be mean, but DAMN would I be freaking happy to get to even HAVE a honeymoon, and a free hotel? WOOT!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It was very generous of them (even though he used points, it’s a 5-star hotel!). I vote suck it up – don’t damage your relationship with your in-law’s over a hotel. You never know what will offend them, and you don’t want to seem ungrateful.

This is one of those “choose your battles” instances, and from and outside POV? I don’t think this is one worth fighting for. :/
That being said, it’s not like acepting this means you need to accept everything they give you from here on out. I don’t think that your wedding (a “special occasion”) will set the precedence on who has the final call on choices in your family.

If you ever go back (1 year anniversary? 10 year?) then stay in the hotel you wanted to stay at.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, I’d suck it up. I also prefer small, local places, but if I’m being gifted a super nice hotel room, I’m not going to look that gift horse in the mouth. It’s not like he went out and booked you a hotel in Sweden when you really wanted to honeymoon in Bermuda. It’s in the location, so I think it will be fine. Enjoy the free room and go to a small, local place on your next trip!

Post # 11
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

5 star hotel in a lovely room? Yeah, I’d suck it up.. doesn’t sound like there’s alot of sucking up to do!

I agree with the PP who mentioned either extending your honeymoon for a few days if you REALLY wanted to visit the other hotel, or take a mini vacation later or on your first anniversary.

Post # 13
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7098 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d take the gift graciously. It was generous enough for them to offer to pay.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If it’s in the same area that you were already planning to go, I’d suck it up and accept the gift. It means you have more money saved for experiences while you’re there!

Will you have the same experience as you’d have at the small place? Probably not, but you’ll have access to the same scenery and view if it’s the same area that you were planning to go to.

Post # 15
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1251 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe your FI gave his father the go-ahead?

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