- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
My dad and I have never had a strong relationship. My parents were never married (happy accident, here!) but I saw my dad regularly throughout my life. I have a lot of hard feelings toward him, but we generallly get along when we’re together. I don’t see him much, but I have 6 half brothers and sisters who I keep in contact with.
My mom and grandma are mostly paying for my wedding, with a little help from FI’s parents. I would really like my dad to contribute, even if it’s just a little. It’s not necessarily the money that I care about, but I want to know that he cares that his oldest daughter is getting married.
My mom has contacted him about contributing, but he only responded that he’d call her later. Well, "later" has turned into almost 2 weeks. I’m in the process of writing an email (because I’d rather have all of this in writing than just his word). Here is what I have so far. I’d really like some advice about what else (if anything) to write, what I should change, etc.
"Hey Dad! I know Mom contacted you about contributing to our wedding. Please let her know asap if you can. I understand that things might be pretty tight financially, but Josh, Mom, and myself would all appreciate your help."
A quick backstory about the line about finances being tight. He divorced my step-mom about a year ago. He’s paying child support for 4 kids (I’m guessing close to $2,000/month), plus she’s probably getting alimony. He’s a lawyer and does pretty well for himself, but I’m sure there is a bit of a financial strain because of his situation. However, I know he can start saving now and have enough (I’m not asking for thousands, here) by early next year.
So what do you girls think? It’s a really sensitive subject for me, so please be nice 🙂