Father OR Step-Father OR Just myself OR Skip this part?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
93 posts
Worker bee

Isabelsong:  hey, I’m in a similar situation. My father bailed before I was born. But I have an amazing uncle who was like a father to me and a step dad. I’m having them both walk me down the aisle. One on either side. 

Post # 3
1117 posts
Bumble bee

Isabelsong:  could you ask your mum to walk you down?

Post # 4
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Could your FI help you off the horse and then the two of you walk down the aisle together?

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Post # 5
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Isabelsong:  It’s between you and your dad. You’re happy walking without your dad, and your dad’s happy not walking you – so don’t walk with him. It doesn’t matter what other people think.

Definitely don’t have your stepdad walk you though, because he played no part in raising you.

Post # 6
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t understand how it’ll make the guests feel bad for you. You say it’s a reflection of you, so I assume you’re a strong, independent woman! You’ll be walking proudly down the aisle to the man you chose to marry. What’s sad about that?

Post # 7
1259 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve seen brides with amazing relationships with their father, choose to walk down the aisle alone. I think it’s very much a personal decision. But, if you are really close with your mom and she’s the one that’s always been there for you since day one, I’m sure she would be honoured to walk you down the aisle. It can be a special moment between the two of you. 

Or, have your fiance meet you halfway down the aisle. Or have your dad walk you part way and your stepdad walk you the rest of the way. 

Post # 8
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

What about your mom? My mom and dad are walking me.

Post # 9
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Why not have them both walk you? One on either side? I don’t think it is anyone’s place to tell you that your step father can’t be a part of it because you happened to be older when you met him. Its up to you to decide who in your life you want to share this moment with. A wedding is about celebrating YOUR love and all those who contribute to YOU and your FI being who you are and where you are today. We can meet people long after childhood that impact us deeply.

I have never been to a wedding where anyone said anything negative about who walked the bride down then aisle.


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