Post # 1
i basically grew up with NEITHER of my dad nor step-dad. my mom and dad were seperated before i can remember things. At first, i was gonna have my dad walk me, but my dad think it might make my step-dad uncomfortable if he walk me down the aisle. i have a very good relationship with my step dad, but when i met him, i was already a young adult, and moved out.
then i decided to walk down the aisle by myself, since i’ll be riding a horse to the ceromony garden (its part of the vennue service) i could get off the horse in a place thats closer to my FI. in another word, make the aisle shorter. i thought it was a great idea untill i told my mom and my FI (seperatly) about it, my mom almost broke in tear… and told me it’ll look so sad and also make all the guest feel bad for me, while my FI told me thats not a good idea (probably for the same reason, but he didn’t say it)
i was kind of shocked… cuz i’ll be totally comfortable with this ( it is totally the true reflection of me anyway). but, my mom’s feeling is not something i would ever ignore…
so… bees~~~ what do i do ??? i really want everyone to be comfortable. or else i can’t possibly be comforatble XD
This topic was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by lilblackbee.
Post # 2
Isabelsong: hey, I’m in a similar situation. My father bailed before I was born. But I have an amazing uncle who was like a father to me and a step dad. I’m having them both walk me down the aisle. One on either side.
Post # 3
Isabelsong: could you ask your mum to walk you down?
Post # 4
Could your FI help you off the horse and then the two of you walk down the aisle together?
Post # 5
Isabelsong: It’s between you and your dad. You’re happy walking without your dad, and your dad’s happy not walking you – so don’t walk with him. It doesn’t matter what other people think.
Definitely don’t have your stepdad walk you though, because he played no part in raising you.
Post # 6
I don’t understand how it’ll make the guests feel bad for you. You say it’s a reflection of you, so I assume you’re a strong, independent woman! You’ll be walking proudly down the aisle to the man you chose to marry. What’s sad about that?
Post # 7
I’ve seen brides with amazing relationships with their father, choose to walk down the aisle alone. I think it’s very much a personal decision. But, if you are really close with your mom and she’s the one that’s always been there for you since day one, I’m sure she would be honoured to walk you down the aisle. It can be a special moment between the two of you.
Or, have your fiance meet you halfway down the aisle. Or have your dad walk you part way and your stepdad walk you the rest of the way.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
What about your mom? My mom and dad are walking me.
Post # 9
Why not have them both walk you? One on either side? I don’t think it is anyone’s place to tell you that your step father can’t be a part of it because you happened to be older when you met him. Its up to you to decide who in your life you want to share this moment with. A wedding is about celebrating YOUR love and all those who contribute to YOU and your FI being who you are and where you are today. We can meet people long after childhood that impact us deeply.
I have never been to a wedding where anyone said anything negative about who walked the bride down then aisle.