Post # 1
I feel miserable, although I am a newly wed.
The father of my husband passed away during the night preceding our marriage. He was fighting a leukemia for a year, but 4 days before the wedding his state drastically deteriorated. We stayed with him in the hospital day and night, hoping that he would wake up and see our union. But G. decided to call him back a couple of hours before our wedding. My father-in-law had clearly and strongly told us to maintain the ceremony whatever happens. So we fulfilled his last wish, by going to the hotel where the ceremony was planned. I had planned every detail of the wedding, a beautician, professional cameraman, special decoration, favors for the guests, meaningful songs, and special food. I wanted to make that day perfect, joyful, and the best memory of our life. We decided to keep the death of the father secret, only my husband’s mom and his brother knew. It is with a broken heart and fighting against tears that we got married. We left just after that, after explaining to my parents what had happened. Our guest attended a wedding reception without the bridal couple. We flew abroad on the next day to burry the father.
I feel sad because of the loss of my Father-In-Law, and also because I got married, but feeling that I did not attend my wedding. This special day occurs once in a lifetime, and I missed it. When I think back of that day, two weeks ago, I just cry. My husband’s insists on having a wedding reception in a couple of months, he wants me to wear again my wedding dress, have our first dance and go on honeymoon. The problem is that all our money went into this sad wedding, and I just feel that I will never be able again to feel a real wedding feeling, the feeling that overwhelms you with happiness and emotion.
Post # 3
Oh my god, I’m so sorry. I couldn’t imagine going through what you had to deal with. I agree with your husband, you deserve to have the wedding of your dreams.
I know it’s a long shot but I have heard of vendors donating (or discounting) their services to couples under unique circumstances. We have a wedding center local to us. They partner with a bunch of vendors (everything you’d need to have a wedding) and offer discounts for couples who book multiple vendors through them. They’ve been known to work with couples under extreme circumstances and give them the weddings of their dreams for either free or at low cost. If you have something like this local to you, it may be worth shooting them an email and explaining your situation. I’d be surprised if you don’t atleast get some discounts thrown your way.
Post # 4
I am so incredibly sorry for your and your DH’s loss, and that the timing was such to make your wedding day so sad…
CaitMarae makes a good point, maybe after some time passes you can look into getting discounts for another reception.
You absolutely deserved to have a happy wedding day after all the thought and time and money you invested…I hope that you can make up for that loss with another reception and a long happy life with your husband.
I believe you can have a reception or vow renewal of your dreams at some point.
Post # 5
I cried reading your story. I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope in time you feel you can indeed have a celebration of your marriage filled with happiness and joy. Best wishes
Post # 6
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can sympothize completely. My father just passed away this week, also from Leukemia. My wedding is not for another 9 months, but it is going to be very hard not having him there. I wish I had words to make it better, but we both no there aren’t any. I’m so sorry you had to miss your reception. I will be praying for you and your husband and his family. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk/vent/scream/cry.
Post # 7
I am terribly sorry for you and your husband’s loss.
Post # 8
praying for you both. I think you should do a renewal once your both healed some. so sorry to hear about the loss of your father in law 🙁
Post # 9
I am so sorry for your and your new husband’s loss. How difficult.
Post # 10
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I’m so sorry for your loss. In a way it really is a double loss. You lost your Father-In-Law and you lost the wedding that you put so much time and love into. I definitely think you two should have that nice reception in the future.
Post # 11
So So sorry for your loss. I agree with SherryBerry tho, you should have a recpetion in the future 🙂
Post # 12
I agree and add my condolences to the other hive members posts. I am so sorry for your loss. You should celebrate your marriage in the future, and maybe then you can honor your Father-In-Law at the reception. Again, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
Post # 13
I’m sorry for you and your new husband’s loss. You definitely deserve to have a wedding reception under happier circumstances. I hope you have something like @CaitMarae suggested in your area.
Post # 14
I am so sorry to hear and am praying for you and your husband.
I agree with the other posters, look into your options and just be honest .
Post # 15
<3 So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers your way…
Post # 16
Sorry for your loss dear. prayers to you and your fam.