(Closed) Father RSVP’d “MAYBE” to rehearsal

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What reason did he give for the “maybe” response?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

That’s terrible!  Do you not have a very good relationship with your father?  It might be hard, but try to talk to him about this.  You’re his daughter, and even though he isn’t obligated to be there, he should want to do this with you! I’m so sorry, this sounds like a tough situation.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh, that’s not good!  Um, how can the officiate not be there?  He’s the one leading the ceremony!!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I mean it sucks that people won’t commit to coming, but bottom line is even if you DIDN’T have a rehearsal it won’t ruin your actual wedding.  I’m sure without one (unless you are doing something very elaborate) everything will turn out just fine.

Try not to stress too much about this – you’re supposed to be ENJOYING this time right now!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’m sorry he isn’t making this a priority.  MIL pulled something similar at the rehearsal but what can you do besides move on? 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I understand about being upset about your father, but I don’t see how it can truly be a rehearsal if the officiant isn’t there? He is the one who ultimately leads things.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would talk to him and tell him exactly what you told us.. try and make a plan for him to be there. Tell him you are hurt by this!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Why did you send the rehearsal dinner invites three months out?  That seems early to me.  That being said, it’s ridiculous that your DAD would say maybe – I could see some other member saying maybe (like if you were inviting some of the OOT guests to the dinner) because they may not know when they will be getting into town, but not your dad.  Sounds to me like he’s doing it on purpose.  But then again, maybe he has one of those jobs where he doesn’t know if he can take off that day/night until a month out or something?  I don’t know girl, but good luck!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I understand your frustration with your dad and that you want him to be there but if he truely can’t (or chooses not to) your ceremony will still be fine.  It’s not like he has to do anything complicated that truely needs practiced and rehearsed – walk you down the ailse then sit down.  Yes – it sucks that he isn’t making it a priority but in the grand scheme of things he doesn’t HAVE to be there.

Hope it all works out though!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m with Kitty — did he give a reason as to why he responded “maybe”?  How would you feel about having your stepfather walk you down the aisle? Or maybe have 1 walk you 1/2 way and the other all the way to the alter?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, my wedding is actuaclly the week before yours and my Dad has given a definate no to the rehersal. Really all they have to do is walk down the isle. It is disapointing, but at the same time it won’t hav e a huge impact on your day.

If he has to be on call mmyabe he wants to make sure he gets his part done so he won’t have to worry about the wedding day. A 4 day stretch when you are on call  can be hard to re-arrange.

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