Post # 1
I need some advice from you wonderful ladies. I know it’s traditional to have a father/daughter dance during the reception, but I’m not that close with my father. He’s not walking me down the aisle, the oldest of my two brothers is. I initially thought about doing it just to make him happy, but the only song I really like is Dance with my Father by Luthor Vandross. Sadly, that song wouldn’t fit because he wasn’t there for me growing up. If I had to dance with anyone it would be my uncle who is more like my dad than anyone.
Any advice on this? Is anyone else thinking about (or have skipped) the father/daughter dance?
Post # 4
Personally, I’m doing one, but there’s nothing that says you HAVE to do ANYTHING at your wedding. If you’re not comfortable, skip it.
Post # 5
I am actually having a similar issue. My parents got divorced 5-6 years ago and the situation wasn’t pretty. The relationship between me and my father while better than previoiusly, is still now very shallow. I do NOT want to do a dance with him, but the problem is that my fiance wants to do a mother-son dance. I think that I am going to say they can just do it discreetly without an announcement because at the same time I don’t want to embarrass my dad or anything. And the whole aisle thing stresses me out…I don’t know what to do!
Post # 6
If you don’t want to do one, then don’t. My best friend’s wedding was last year & she’s a “daddy’s girl”, but she didn’t do a father/daughter dance because she said it was just ‘weird’ to her, LoL. I, myself, have no intention of doing one.. and I also plan on walking down the aisle alone. I’m not close to my father, first of all. He will be there, though. If we were close, I might consider the dance. I don’t feel right about the “being given away” thing… I mean, FI isn’t being “given away”, so why I should I be? LoL.. off topic, but the point is, if you don’t want to do it, don’t. I promise, the wedding police won’t show up and give you a citation.
Post # 7
I am really close with my dad so for me it was different.
However, there’s nothing to say that you can’t just skip it, but at one point just ask your dad to dance, so that he doesn’t feel like he missed his moment, but that it’s not as big of a deal as someone else would make it. Then you can ask your uncle to dance as well.
Post # 8
I don’t want to do it I’m not really close with my dad, neither is my sister.. I’m doing it because I know it would hurt his feelings if i didn’t do it.
My cousin skipped it. She didn’t grow up with her dad in her house hold and he really didnt play a HUGE part in her life. He was around at times, so he wasn’t MIA, but he wasn’t there everyday.
Post # 9
My biological father is not walking me down the aisle and will not dance when its time to do the f/d dance. Dont really know if he will even show up. My stepfather is walking me down the aisle and will be dancing with me because he has stepped up and became more of a father to me than my biological one will ever be. He and my mom said that they will even help us pay for the wedding. They have dont so much. I appreciate them SOOOOOO much
Post # 10
I don’t think it is necessary. I have been to weddings where both father/daughther mother/son dances were skipped altogether. I don’t think you should feel obligated to have a special dance with a man who wasn’t there for you growing up.