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interesting question. right now we switch off - and i am assuming we will continue to do so. Fathers day is more important for me to attend church (hes a minister) so thats what we always do. but if we are in town with the IL then we go there. If its really important you can always switch off years, or do one as a brunch and one as dinner, etc.
but i like the idea of having a get together with all of em. if they get along why not?
Our parents live in the same town, and we do church and lunch with my family, and dinner with his. Or, we'll do Saturday night at one place and Sunday at the other. We've been doing this for 5 years, and it works pretty well. We're a little busy, but it makes everyone happy :)
@afbacher: Thanks for responding. Do your parents get along? Would you consider a group party or do you prefer to give each father his own time?
That's my concern. I realize I'm suggesting this because it would make life easier for me. :) But I don't want to do it if I think any one of our dads would feel put off by sharing this day with other dads.
im thinking you are asking because you think your biological dad will be put off. how about just seeing him for bruch or something alone, then have the other two over for dinner?
@spaganya: Thanks for responding. That's pretty much my concern, yes. Your suggestion would certainly alleviate that problem, but then how would that look to the other two dads? My stepfather is happy no matter what, but my father-in-law is very much into appearances and would ask. So, I think we should probably do all together or all separate.
my dad lives 5 hours away and has never really cared for these kind of holidays. He always says "don't get me anything!" and stuff like that. He's coming up 4th of July weekend though and I'm getting him a pedicure. We're seeing DH's grandpa in the afternoon on father's day. It's also our anniversary so we're keeping to ourselves most of the day.
@ejs: Thanks for the response. Happy Anniversary!!
If your dads did live locally, would you consider doing a party or would you celebrate them separately?
We are in a bit of a unique situations, so I think it would depend on your family. I also have 3 dads... my dad, who has known FI's dad for most of their lives... and my step dad. My mom and dad admit to marrying too young, and are still friends after their divorce, so my dad and step dad go golfing together!! We have done a joint fathers day BBQ for the past couple of years, and they love it! Everyone looks forward to it... so if you think it will work with your families, then go for it. Or if there is one that will be awkward, maybe do a brung, and then a BBQ with just the two... whatever you think will work. It's not meant to be stressful, its meant to be a celebration of dads :)
Thanks!
Honestly, probably neither. My dad is pretty laid back. We'd probably just do dinner with him sometime. And, he's the kind of guy who doesn't like to 'share' time with us. He wouldn't want attention to be split between him and DH's grandpa.
i think it would be fine to do a dinner together since they get along.
we usually celebrate individually on different nights- whatever is convenient for everyone. we did one party for mothers day with everyone- we had my parents, my husband's parents, and my sil's dad and stepmom.
Could you give your dad, a special day before Father's Day? then invite all three over for a dinner on Father's Day?
Dislcaimer: I'm not married (or engaged, or even "waiting" yet . . .), but here are my two cents:
I think it's a great idea to have one event for all 3 dads. If not hosting them at your home, how about taking them all to a nice steakhouse? Then give each a nice card and small token from the two of you.
The more delicate situation seems to be your dad wanting separate attention from your step-dad, no? In that case, I support Spaganya's suggestion, modified as follows:
You and your dad do a small activity alone (just the two of you- movies, brunch, museum) the day before or after Father's Day, and still include him in the group activity.
Everyone wins: Your stepdad doesn't have to know about the other activity, and your dad feels special.
(Don't worry about appearances- your husband's father should be happy to celebrate with his son and daughter-in-law! If he's going to be put off, your husband is welcome to do a private father-son activity with him, too!)
we drive around from house to house on these occasions. our dads get along, but my theory is that just because they get along or are cordial with one another, doesn't mean that they want to spend father's day together at MY house. it's their day afterall. i'd also hate to think that they all showed up because they felt bad when they'd rather be doing their own thing. we don't mind going from place to place because it's not our day. maybe when we have children of our own, we'll figure something else out. good luck! holidays can be hectic when your family is suddenly comprised of two families plus stepfamilies.
I'd have all three dads over for dinner. Then I would take bio dad out for lunch.
I think doing the same thing for all three dads is telling them "you're all on the same level". Now, if you feel that way about your dad & step dad then that's good. However, if you feel closer with one over the other than I wouldn't do a dinner for all of them.
And as far as the idea goes of doing something seperate with your real dad in addition to the dinner -- well, what is there to make him believe you're not doing something special with your step-dad as well?
I like LALaw's idea of having the dinner for all three and a special activity with your Dad. I think it could be fun to have your three Dad's celebrate together!
I think dinner all together could be nice- but I do think you should do something just you and your dad, he should feel special!
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I haven't been here in ages, but I figured this is probably the one place I can get some good answers fast!
Between the two of us, my husband and I have two fathers and a step-father. Our moms aren't living, so it's just our three dads.
As you know, Father's Day is coming. What we've done in years past when we were simply dating or living together is each of us would celebrate Father's Day with our respective fathers alone.
This year, however, the thought of three separate Father's Day dinners overwhelms me slightly.
I had the thought that we could host a Father's Day Dinner at our new house and invite all three dads. My question is: Is this vastly inappropriate? Or is it doable? Do married couples celebrate Father's Day twice, once with the groom's father and once with the bride's father?
Before you ask, my dads do get along. They aren't best pals or anything, but they enjoy each other's company.
Since they both walked me down the aisle at my wedding, I think now could be a good time to begin this tradition. But I know that my father would prefer that he be the only dad in my life, and part of me thinks I should continue to give him his very own Father's Day.
Thoughts? Thanks!