(Closed) Father’s Day Etiquette Q for Newlyweds

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

interesting question. right now we switch off – and i am assuming we will continue to do so. Fathers day is more important for me to attend church (hes a minister) so thats what we always do. but if we are in town with the IL then we go there.  If its really important you can always switch off years, or do one as a brunch and one as dinner, etc.

but i like the idea of having a get together with all of em. if they get along why not?

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Our parents live in the same town, and we do church and lunch with my family, and dinner with his. Or, we’ll do Saturday night at one place and Sunday at the other. We’ve been doing this for 5 years, and it works pretty well. We’re a little busy, but it makes everyone happy 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

im thinking you are asking because you think your biological dad will be put off. how about just seeing him for bruch or something alone, then have the other two over for dinner?

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

my dad lives 5 hours away and has never really cared for these kind of holidays. He always says “don’t get me anything!” and stuff like that. He’s coming up 4th of July weekend though and I’m getting him a pedicure. We’re seeing DH’s grandpa in the afternoon on father’s day. It’s also our anniversary so we’re keeping to ourselves most of the day.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are in a bit of a unique situations, so I think it would depend on your family.  I also have 3 dads…  my dad, who has known FI’s dad for most of their lives… and my step dad.  My mom and dad admit to marrying too young, and are still friends after their divorce, so my dad and step dad go golfing together!! We have done a joint fathers day BBQ for the past couple of years, and they love it!  Everyone looks forward to it… so if you think it will work with your families, then go for it.  Or if there is one that will be awkward, maybe do a brung, and then a BBQ with just the two… whatever you think will work.  It’s not meant to be stressful, its meant to be a celebration of dads 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Thanks!

Honestly, probably neither. My dad is pretty laid back. We’d probably just do dinner with him sometime. And, he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t like to ‘share’ time with us. He wouldn’t want attention to be split between him and DH’s grandpa.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think it would be fine to do a dinner together since they get along.

we usually celebrate individually on different nights- whatever is convenient for everyone. we did one party for mothers day with everyone- we had my parents, my husband’s parents, and my sil’s dad and stepmom.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Could you give your dad, a special day before Father’s Day?  then invite all three over for a dinner on Father’s Day?

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Dislcaimer: I’m not married (or engaged, or even “waiting” yet . . .), but here are my two cents:

I think it’s a great idea to have one event for all 3 dads.  If not hosting them at your home, how about taking them all to a nice steakhouse?  Then give each a nice card and small token from the two of you.

The more delicate situation seems to be your dad wanting separate attention from your step-dad, no?  In that case, I support Spaganya’s suggestion, modified as follows:

You and your dad do a small activity alone (just the two of you- movies, brunch, museum) the day before or after Father’s Day, and still include him in the group activity.

Everyone wins: Your stepdad doesn’t have to know about the other activity, and your dad feels special.

(Don’t worry about appearances- your husband’s father should be happy to celebrate with his son and daughter-in-law!  If he’s going to be put off, your husband is welcome to do a private father-son activity with him, too!)

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