Post # 1
It has always been my dream to have my wedding in June (no clue why, but it has). When looking at dates in June, all other dates will not work except Father’s Day (June 16) or my sister’s birthday (June 23). I have read other posts about Father’s Day weddings, and they all said something about recognizing the dads in the room or something. However, my dad passed away recently and I don’t think I could mentally say anything to recognize other fathers without my own not being there.
The other day in question would be my sister’s 18th birthday. I don’t want to impose on her birthday, but I don’t know which would be a bigger deal. (My sister says on a scale of 1-10 she is about a 5 on if she would be upset) She says she doesn’t care, but I just feel a little bad. If we did have it on her birthday, would it be weird to sing happy birthday and have a small cake for her?
Post # 3
Thats a tough one! I know that there were at least 3 birthdays that fell on the weekend of our wedding. 2 Cousins and my SIL – I actually had little gifts for them and brought them on the dance floor and had everyone sing happy birthday to them. It was the very least i could do and of course the wedding isn’t all about me! its about 2 families coming together and it only felt right to pay tribute to those birthday’s that my wedding may be overshadowing. Maybe that is something you could do for your sister?
Post # 4
This is a pretty tough decision for you, especially with the recent passing of your Dad. I just want to say that I’m sorry for your loss, I truly am.
With regards to your posted question, I do think that as June 23 is a milestone birthday for your sister, I would suggest going with June 16th. You don’t have to be the one to make an announcement or recognize that it’s Father’s Day. You can type up something in your wedding program, have the DJ/band leader announce it or have the Maid/Matron of Honor or Groomsmen include a reference in the toast. That way, you can have a private moment of reflection about YOUR Dad, but not be the one who has to say anything to your guests.
That said, should you choose to go with June 23 – there is NOTHING wrong with including your sister in the celebration. You could have a special cake wheeled out for her and definitely sing Happy Birthday. I think it would be a charming and special celebration!
Post # 5
I think if it was any other birthday than an 18th/21st and was anyone but immediate family I would say go for the 23rd but since it is your sisters 18th birthday (and like your wedding day for you it is a big milestone event in her life) I would go for the 16th.
Personally I think it would be a nice homage to your father to be married on fathers day but I also think that some people may rsvp no due to it being fathers day.
Could you move you day to the Saturday instead to avoid all of this?
Post # 6
@j_jaye: I am pretty dead set on a Sunday because of the price difference. For the size of my wedding and the size of my budget it pretty much has to be on a Sunday.
Post # 7
Tough call. I would stick with the 16th, or maybe try and do the 30th of June, should be a Sunday as well. Or see if a Friday has the same discounted rate, do at a lot of venues. I wouldn’t do June 23rd, as it is a pretty big day for your sister, and if she is at a 5 now…when it gets closer, she will be a 10, trust me! Or maybe a Thursday wedding?
Post # 8
@CardsBride13: What about a Friday night? Usually there is a discount there too….
If you don’t like that idea, I would go with Father’s Day…assuming your wedding is later int he day most people tend to do stuff int he am-brunch,e tc, so I think that would work better.
Post # 9
@CardsBride13: First, I am so sorry for your loss. Personally, I think a Father’s Day wedding would be a wonderful nod to your dad. You would have time to decide on the details, but I think something written in your program, or a small speech by a family member or friend recognizing all fathers- and giving special tribute to your own- would be really emotionally satisfying on your wedding day and for years to come.