Post # 1
I work at a wedding venue, and we had a wedding on Father’s Day (June 17th). The bride wanted Sunday, June 17th because it had some special significance, and they couldn’t afford to have it on that Saturday. Let me add that all the other Sundays were still available in June at the time of booking, since it was 14 months in advance. We did warn her that with it being Father’s Day, less people would come to her wedding, but she really wanted June 17th, so she got it. And she reasured that because she would be sending out Save-the-dates, people would know well in advance.
Well she got close to 130 RSVPs, so we went ahead and setup for 130 guests. Seating, linens, food, centerpieces, wedding favors, cake….all for 130. Turns out, only 45 people showed up! And I’m pretty sure those 45 guests were all family. As soon as she and her husband exited she ceremony she began bawling. Poor girl, I felt sooooo bad! I tried to make her feel better by saying that people were probably doing their Father’s Day thing before her wedding, and would show up to the reception. That comforted her a bit, but I didn’t really believe it myself. It was a day wedding with no alcohol, so that definetly hampered the mood too. Everyone tried to make the best of it, and I told her that in the end she was still going to be married to the love of her life and that’s all that mattered. Her reception ended more than 1 hour early. I think her feelings were very hurt after realizing that many of her friends preferred to celebrate Father’s Day, which happens every year, rather than come to her wedding.
I’m assuming that guests RSVP’d, and then realized afterwards that it was Father’s Day. Lesson learned to all you future brides! How awful is that!?!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be happy if I were that bride and I found that an employee of the venue was sharing details on my wedding online.
I certainly hope that you had the discretion not to post your correct location or that the location of your weddingis not the location of the venue where you are employed.
I suggest you check your post if necessary to ensure that you are not causing embarassment to a client.
Post # 4
@mrs.mrod1026: wow, good to know…incase any future brides consider having their big day on a special holiday even though they rsvp. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Post # 5
@julies1949: Good point.
I feel very bad for this girl. I want to give her a hug.
Post # 6
@julies1949: I have not and will not disclose the name of the venue or location I work at. I am aware of the professional etiquette I must abide by. Thank you very much for your concern in regards to my bride. I LOVE my job and I LOVE my brides. My intention is to help future brides not make the same mistakes. I am here to help, not nit pick…
Post # 7
Definitely something important to consider. Thanks for the heads up!
Post # 9
@mrs.mrod1026: Aww that is so sad!!! 🙁
Post # 10
Yes, this is what I hear about holiday weddings, even things like Memorial Day… that many people just have long-standing yearly plans and they WILL NOT give them up. The problem here is the huge number of people who bailed without giving notice! How inconsiderate and awful!
By The Way, I have no problem with you posting this. You properly de-identified it and it’s no worse than people posting about other weddings they’re attended. You aren’t being cruel or catty.
Post # 12
Wow, that’s so sad! She must’ve lost alot of money paying for all those extra seats/meals for people who never showed up. 🙁
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’m blown away by those numbers- unbelievable that that many people would be no-shows, after they RSVP!
Once you get married, you have to split holidays anyway- we celebrated Father’s Day with my family on the 9th due to my brother’s vacation, and with FI’s on the 17th. If I had said to my Dad- “I have a wedding invite for Sunday, are you ok with getting together another day?”- no problem!
Post # 14
I would never have scheduled on a holiday like that. However, my wedding is July 6 which is close enough to July 4 to conflict with a lot of people’s family functions that weekend. I knew what I was getting into though, and it was the best weekend to chose.
I feel bad for that girl, but I think she should have known better. Hopefully this doesn’t happen to anyone else!
Post # 15
I know that people have this problem sometimes when they choose to do it on a 3-day holiday weekend, like memorial day or labor day. I hope people learn from this!
Post # 16
Ugh, that is awful. Poor girl 🙁