(Closed) Father's Sisters Hate my Mother and Me-Do I HAVE to invite them?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@imamonster89:  Absolutely not! And if they fish for an invite, the obvious retort is, “But you said I wasn’t family”.

If your father truly loves you and your mother (and it sounds like he does), then he will understand.

Post # 5
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Holy crap, NO.

Post # 6
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@imamonster89:  A good rule of thumb is not invite anyone you hate or who hates you to your wedding. This day is supposed to be joyful! It sounds like your daddy (I’m 30 and still call my dad daddy!) will be more than understanding. I would just make sure he knows about it before the invites go out so he can handle any fallout.

Post # 7
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

NO! You don’t have to invite them. I’d sit your father down and talk it over with him first though. I’m sure he’ll agree with you. 

Post # 8
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

Of course you don’t have to invite anyone who has such thoughts and feelings about you and your Mom. Why would you set yourself up for more hate from them, as I can guarantee that nothing will magically change on your wedding day. I’d never put myself in that position, and I hope your Dad agrees with the decision to eliminate them as guests.

Post # 9
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No way! You definitely do not have to invite them – it doesnt sound like they deserve to be a part of your special day! 

Post # 10
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@imamonster89:  please don’t invite them! It will be painful for everyone. 

Post # 11
384 posts
Helper bee

My step-fathers sister is like this. We are inviting her so 1. Doesn’t cause more rift btwn the family and 2. We figured she won’t show up anyway and if she does it’s only two ppl out of 140. Most likely she will make an excuse so I’m not worried. 

Post # 12
2499 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My oldest sister is in the same situation as you regarding parents – we share the same mum but have different dads. She has never met her real dad and as far as everyone is concerned, my dad is her dad, even though he never officially adopted her. Whenever my dad talks about us, he always refers to us as “his three daughters”, never “my two daughters and my wifes daughter”.


She was in a good position as everyone in my dads family welcomed her with open arms and never treated her as anything less than their own niece, granddaughter etc. I am really sorry to hear you havent had such a good time with your fathers family. Obviously your dad will be upset if they aren’t invited but do you think they will come, seeing as they don’t seem to really like you and have treated you badly? What does your dad say aboupop what they do?

Post # 13
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

Of course you should not invite them, and it is beyond me why your father would even expect you to!  Do NOT invite these hateful people!

Post # 14
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hell to the No would I invite them.

Post # 15
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nope! I wouldn’t let them near my wedding with a thousand-foot pole if I were you.

Post # 16
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@paula1248:  +10, GREAT response.

@imamonster89:  If you do not invite them, your dad should understand why. I’d hope he’s even MORE appalled by his sisters behavior than YOU are!

The topic ‘Father's Sisters Hate my Mother and Me-Do I HAVE to invite them?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors