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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    I guess this is what everyone meant when they said "Something will go wrong, no matter how you try to plan things."

    In mid February we ordered 150 personalized favors from an artist on Etsy.  The package was supposed to ship on 3/5 but because the woman had some personal issues, the favors didn't ship until 3/18.  The package arrived today, just in time for the wedding.  The problem?  The box contained only 68 favors.  Out of 150.  With four days until the wedding.

    We emailed her to see if she might have shipped the favors in two separate batches.  No response yet, and we're prepared that she made a huge goof and we're not going to get the full batch.

    I'm not worried about the money, because Etsy and PayPal have protections in place for buyers who don't get what they order.  What I'm worried about is coming up with a meaningful favor that isn't lame, expensive, or difficult to assemble in the limited amount of time that we have left.

    Any suggestions?  We're expecting 120 guests (I overestimated by ordering 150) and we're willing to go as high as $200 for favors, but that has to include everthing -- the favor and whatever it ends up being packaged in.

    I welcome any thoughts or suggestions.

    THANKS.

     
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    whitesonnet    June 26, 2010   Detroit, MI

    Oh no! What was the original idea?

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    At 4 days out of the wedding, I wouldn't even worry about favors.  That will just add extra stress on your plate that you don't really need!  Just give yourself a break :)

     
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    jordynrose    October 16, 2010   Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

    What is the original idea?  Is it something that you can replicate?  Or can you alternate favors with something complimentary to the original idea?

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    You could alwyas stack them up by the door with a "take one" sign because, inevitably, a handful of people won't take them. Some may miss out, yes, but at least you put them out for taking....don't worry about it though, you definitely have bigger things on your plate. After the wedding, i promise this will be small beans.

     
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    whitesonnet    June 26, 2010   Detroit, MI

    Or, with what you have, could you do one per couple and then supplement it with simple candy in organza bags or tins from somewhere like Joanns?

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    Honestly as frustrating as it is to have put all that thought into favors and then have them fall through, I would just forget about doing them at all at this point, unless the other half of the shipment comes through. Trying to pull something new together at this point will just cause you a lot of unnecessary stress.

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    I'd do something you can buy and the guests can eat. Dress it up if you want, or get something that already has a color that would work with your scheme.

    That sounds soo frustrating, but honestly it sounds like you are taking it in stride and being very rational about it. Kudos to you!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    Thanks for everyone's responses and suggestions by private message.

    I don't want to say what the original idea was, because not too many sellers do what she does, and I don't want to tarnish her reputation since it's as yet unresolved.  The box was damaged slightly (it didn't really occur to us that this could have been where the problem arose, as sometimes packages arrive damaged without any loss of contents) and she's fairly confident that theft was involved, so she's opened a claim with UPS.

    She's going to call me, so I'll keep you posted.

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    I say screw making new favors.  You don't need to be doing those 4 days before your wedding and people aren't gonna care that much.  Just put out the ones you have and at least almost every couple would get a favor to share.  

     
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    AzinAugust    August 2010   Sedona, AZ

    I like @ejs4y8's idea- it's true not everyone wants wedding favors. Maybe add that and little candies in boxes?

     
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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    If you can't work this out with getting the other half of your shipment, how about doing a charitable donation and just printing up tent cards for each table saying that in lieu of favors a charitable donation has been made?  I've been at a couple of weddings where the couple did that (and wrote a paragraph about the charity and why it's meaningful to them) and I'm always moved by it.  Plus what a nice way to turn around the misfortune!  Smile

    I hope it all works out for you!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    As I said, the artist has opened up a claim with UPS.  Like Etsy and PayPal, my guess is that UPS also has protections inplace for people whose packages are torn into.

    But the really great news is that she's going to be making brand new favors for us that will ship tomorrow and arrive by Friday.

    Thanks for all of your support.  I'm hopeful that they'll arrive by Friday!  Once they do, if you're all interested, I'll share the favor with you.

    How does that sound?

    Thanks again for your support.

     
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    whitesonnet    June 26, 2010   Detroit, MI

    Glad the seller was willing to work with you. That sucks that half got lost though. Fingers crossed and prayers that it gets to you in time!

    And yes I would love to see what you concocted up!

    Otherwise, GOOD LUCK with the wedding!! See you when you get back!

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I'm glad that you were able to get this resolved and now you don;t have to worry about that.

     
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    Wow.  I'm kinda jealous.  Not only do you have an awesome vendor who's expediting shipping to you to make sure you're ok, but you have favors that are so cool, someone decided to STEAL them??  Nice!  Well at least you know they'll be popular!!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    Thanks, ladies!  The favors are pretty awesome.  I'm really hopeful that this is going to work out.

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    How did everything work out? I hope well! I'm curious...what were the favors?

     
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    Kingcake    04/09/2011  

    I am also curious.  I have had really good luck with Etsy, and then I had one seller that was, um, not on the ball.

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    Now I'm curious, too!

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    now, I want to know...update (with pic) please!!!

     
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    CCSR    November 27, 2010   Arlington, VA / Wedding in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

    I want to know too!  What were the favors?

     
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    MsBrooklynA       Midwest

    I would like to know as well what finally happened.

     
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    Lovespearls    June 13, 2010   New York & DC & Austin

    wow I am sooo sorry thats awful!!! To be honest at this point instead of stressing yourself to the MAX a few days b4 the wedding I would do a donation as the favor, just make small little cards to let everyone know, its so much easier then trying to go out and buy/assemble something so fast!

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    If for whatever reason the rest of the favors don't work out, what if you put the 68 favors that you do have out on the table and say, "One per couple please". 

    Not everyone will take one and that should be enough for one per couple. 

     
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    bunnylovesbear    February 19, 2011   north of Boston, MA

    I'm also curious what your favors are!!  Since your story ended with a happy ending, I think you should tell us! :)

     
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    hhausman    June 26, 2010  

    I'm dying of curiousity!  Please share with us (and tell us who the Etsy seller is cause she sounds AWESOME for helping fix the situation on such short notice!)

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    Wow! I had no idea I caused such curiosity!

    In any event, here's a link to the Etsy seller's listing of our wedding favors. And below is one of our pro photos of the favor.

    I couldn't recommend this seller more highly. Thanks!

    http://www.etsy.com/listing/43103338/50-heart-organic-bird-seed-favors?ref=sr_gallery_1&ga_search_query=2birdsinlove&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title

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    martysgal    November 6, 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    my friend is having those same things as her favors! they are so cute!

     
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    pooks75    May 2011  

    eurekaanchovies....how much did you pay for the bird seed favors? i can't find the cost breakdown on etsy or the 2birdsinlove website...

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    Adorable! Thank you for resolving the mystery for us. I'm glad everything worked out with your favors!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    @pooks75:  I can't say I remember exactly but I think it worked out to be just a smidge less than $1 per favor.  Which didn't include shipping.

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    Did the seller find out anything from UPS?

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    Toffee:  I'm not sure.  I just got back tonight from my honeymoon and haven't had a chance to check in with her.  My guess is not, since she asked us to hold the damaged box for five days at UPS's request, and after that time she told me she hadn't heard and that I should just chuck the box.

     

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