Post # 1
We were thinking of doing a donation to the cancer society of which my father had cancer in honor of him who passed away in January.
We do cannot afford to do favors and a donation and we don’t want to spend the money on favor for people to throw away… Should we just to a small bag of candy with a ribbon to keep it simple and is doing a donation too much?
We want to find a way to tie in in my father to the wedding and have also thought of doing a brief slide show of photos of him and I throughout the years while playing the song I would hav chose for the “father daughter” dance..???
Should we do no favors, donation or candy??? Any other thoughts and would the slide show be too much?
Post # 3
I think the slide show is a nice “father daughter dance” tribute. I don’t mind when I don’t receive a favor at a wedding, especially if the money used for favors goes to a great cause. If you insist on doing a favor at all, a bag of candy is your best bet. no one can refuse food!
Post # 4
I really like the idea of a business sized card that says “In lieu of a traditional favor, the newyweds have chosen to donate to the ___ Cancer Society in honour of Mr. Bride’s Father”
Post # 5
No worries on a favor if you do the donation… just make sure you make a note on either the seating card (escort card) or at each place that lets your guest know that you did. I think the slide slow is nice sentiment but my only concern is the awkwardness and emotions it may trigger to other family and friends. My family would be a blubbering mess and I’m sure it would be hard to get back into “party” vibe from it… just a thought though
Post # 6
Why don’t you use fruit as favors? It’s inexpensive (especially if you get it locally and in bulk), it’s healthy and delicious, and you can tie a note to the stem letting everyone know about the donation.
Post # 7
So sorry about your loss. 🙁 I’ve seen some really great donations- How about a simple card with your dad’s picture on it? Or if you are going to do candy, do your Dad’s favorite candy? Or wear something of your dad’s that day or stitch his initials in your dress-seen that before? My mom just went to a wedding earlier this year that had the Dad’s picture where he was conveniently holding up a drink on a napkin and it said something like Cheers, Dad! Wish you could be here. The big question is how much are you ready to handle? It is an already emotional day so make sure to do stuff you’re 100% comfortable with. Good luck!
Post # 8
I think of it this way: As a guest, would you rather (1) get a $2 trinket or some candy, or (2) all give up your favor to collectively donate $200 to a cancer society?
I believe some people would pick option 1. But I personally don’t care about favors. I’d rather have it go to a worthy cause, especially one near and dear to the bride. You could do a small business card on each place setting, or… here’s a good idea… find a double frame (one hinged between the frames so it can stand on its own). In one frame you can put a picture of you and your dad. In the other frame write the note about how a donation is being made in the name of the guests to the cancer society. You can put one on each table, or just put one on the escort card table.
Post # 9
I like the donation over favor idea as well. As for the slide show, would you get teary and sad looking at those pictures? If that doesn’t bother you or your family, then fine. Otherwise maybe having an area where you could display some photos along with the statement you made a donation to the cancer society???