- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
We are not giving our guests any favors, instead we are donating money to three charities. We are splitting the money into three different charities that are very important to us.
No favors, AND no charitable donation. I don't feel guilty AT ALL. After all, we're not having a wedding for our own sake--all that money on food and booze and music is for everyone else (we're lucky if we even get to eat it!).
I suppose if we had the money to spare a charitable donation would be nice, but we already do that when we can and I don't feel any compulsion to do it when we can't.
We may do a favor -- if we do it will be a coaster with Cheers! In English, Irish and Slovak.
the other option we are giving is getting to-go cake boxes and having a cake buffet so guests can take their cake to-go if they prefer!
I've always found favors to be annoying and guilt-inducing. I always feel guilty for throwing away the piece of crap that my friends foolishly wasted their money on. I am not the least bit conflicted about not having favors. I don't think it is anything that people really notice or care about.
Thanks Guys!
You are making me feel less and less guilty about my NEW decision!!!!
Our favor/welcome gift is small, and there will be no welcome basket for our DW, just one small token for the whole shebang.
I'm doing a food favor, but only because it's something my sister really wanted to do. I am with you on the favors... even food favors can sometimes suck (I've gotten two bad candy favors this month. TWO!!! This month!!).
Don't feel bad, people won't miss it if they're having fun! And if they ask... well then, they just weren't very gracious people, and probably didn't deserve one!
We aren't doing favours, for many of the same reasons as you.
Definitely don't worry about not doing favors. I've been to two weddings this year that did not, and never heard a single guest comment about there not being favors. And I agree, a lot -- even food ones -- just get left behind.
We did milk and cookies, handed to guests as they boarded the shuttle back to the hotel (pretty much all of the guests took the shuttle, b/c it was a DW but not close to the hotel everyone stayed at). No idea if they were enjoyed or not. :)
I don't think it is bad if you don't do favors...seriously, there are some awful ones out there, and it makes me wonder why people waste their money on them! I don't know what we're doing for favors...but if we do, it will be food-related (either a candy bar or a take out box for our dessert bar).
I am not doing favors as i find them a waste of money , i know my friends will just toss them out anyway
Favors are a personal decision - do what is right and feels best to you. I definitely would prefer no favor to a favor I couldn't use/wouldn't like. We're both baking enthusiasts, so make edible favors for our small wedding. That said, favors aren't a requirement - don't feel guilty for opting out. More eco- and budget-friendly that way. :)
We went to a wedding this past weekend and there were no favors, which got me thinking that we don't need to do them either. As has been mentioned, we're already spending a lot of money on the reception with the aim of providing guests a good time. I'm relieved to see it's an option.
I'm not doing favors and I hate getting them! I am doing welcome bags though.
We are NOT doing favors! (per se) We are doing a large bowl or basket of buttercream mints (actually from Oriental Trading Company) that say "Thanks for sharing our day" and we are also doing bubbles. I know there are mixed feelings about bubbles, but there will be lots of children there so they will be used and whatever is left over, I can use at school in my classroom. I work with children with special needs and I use bubbles alot for sensory input, so they will not go to waste! They were also purchased at our local Dollar Tree, so they were very inexpensive.
We are, however, doing welcome bags at the hotel for our of towners-which we are putting in 2 bottles of water, 2 flavor packets, fruit snacks, granola bars, a packet from the chamber of commerce and some coupons from restaurants that are very close to the hotel (walking distance).
I also don't really see the point of a favor but Mama Frenchie HAD to have them. I really glad we found a favor that doubles a the place card holder, so it's not just a cheap gift ;-)
We weren't going to do favors, but then decided to do a cookie buffet for a couple of reasons. First, our meal is at 3, so people may well be hungry later. Second, and most importantly, cookies are pretty much the only baked good that both the FH and I like (especially me). It's one of the ways that we're personalizing our wedding, but I wouldn't hesitate for a minute not to have any favors. I've never received on that I liked.
Not doing 'em either . We may make a small donation and mention that, but otherwise, you're right, just a waste of money for something that no one really wants anyway! Spend it on something better!
A reusable small item or something edible are the only type of favors I'd consider. We once got a wine bottle stopper at our friends' wedding, and it's been really helpful!
I'm not planning on doing favors. Our budget is pretty tight, and I'd rather use the money towards things guests actually notice, like the food and entertainment.
Not doing favors. I see them as a waste of time and money that goes UN-noticed! I went to a wedding in April and they didn't do favors. Instead just had a small card at each place setting that said thank you for sharing our day. I agree with others that you are already giving plenty of food, drinks and entertainment for the evening. I remember weddings growing up and they never had party favors. I use to work at a wedding facility in highschool and I don't remember party favors. That was 10 years ago. So favors are a recent trend.
Does anyone remember going to weddings where they put disposable cameras at each table? That was the trend when I worked weddings in the 90s. Now I haven't seen them in the last 5 years or so.
I thought about not doing favors, but my sister/moh said i had to, so we're making cookies. I don't know, when I go to a wedding I always enjoy seeing what the favor's going to be... although in December we're going to a Christmas themed one (I'm jewish) and I hope i don't have to take home another ornamant. it wouldn't be the first time.
Favors are definitely a pain. Since I made them, I had to get the chocolates put into tin boxes that we bought at Michaels. I had to wrap each favor with a bow individually and top it with a pair of chopsticks. I had to make sure the chocolate didn't melt and the bows weren't squished and had to have my maid of honor help put them on the tables before everyone got to the reception site.
I'm with Frenchie. I'm only going to do a favor IF it's something that will double as another wedding related expense (place card holders) and I didn't want 100 of -fill in the blank- laying around the house after the wedding.
I am almost there with you! We haven't purchased our favors b/c it wasn't very high on the priority list. The sentimental types are usually the ones supporting a cute candle, champagne glass or bottle opener- but man, how many people do you think actually keep that stuff? Maybe 1/3 and it seems like the women usually. I got a few awesome candles at my cousin's wedding that I loved, but where in the heck are they a year later? :)
I thought about doing something fun for the shower and for the bach party- since those are usually the closer friends, etc. that would love something sentimental. That way, your only buying 10-30 special things.
We have matches and napkins for small keepsakes and will be posting our pics online for people. I know I don't have much time, but I think we may do a simple sweet favor like a cube of peanut butter fudge or one cookie and call it good!
I like this post. I'm all about my guest getting more specialty cocktails or wine!
I am thinking of not doing favors so that we reallocate money on inviting more people. I don't like favors most of the time anyway. The cool favors that I've thought of ex:wine bottle, wine stoppers, cost too much.
i would have totally skipped favors.. except that it was one of the details that i actually had a neat idea about - so we're doing it even tho we could have put that money to other use.
I agree. I can't stand nick nacks that clutter your house. We are giving out a peice of traditional Guyanese Black cake ( my FH is from Guyana and his mom will make it). if not, I would probably just go with a wine bottle stopper or a gift to charity and cards on the table stating as such. What a waste of money to give trinkets...
We are doing a charitable donation in memory of several of my relatives that passed from cancer. My family would appreciate that much more than a bag of candy or a candle, not that there is anything wrong with favors, but they are an uneccessary expense.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| ticatica | 13 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 12 |
| MrsOliveBird | 11 |
| aussiebee | 10 |
| janetsnakehole | 8 |
| Scottish_lassie | 7 |
| GelaMac | 6 |
| j_jaye | 5 |
| MrsMSmith | 5 |
| Rivendeler | 5 |
Sorry, there are no users yet.
So I have been reading through a lot of the favors post and have found that people spend a fair amount of money on little favors that people make fun of, hate and throw away. The only favors people enjoy are food favors... but I am already paying 1000's of dollars to feed my guests and there is going to be more than enough to eat and drink.
So this got me thinking... what is the point?
So I googled favor etiquette and found multiple sites stating that it is an ideal that was implemented by the wedding industry to get couples to spend more money on (for lack of a better word) cheap crap and it is by no means REQUIRED or NECESSARY!!!!
So I have decided against to not waste my money and not provide my guests with something they will throw away!
I am interested to know how many of you out in the hive have decided to NOT to have guest favors???????