Post # 1
So I have been reading through a lot of the favors post and have found that people spend a fair amount of money on little favors that people make fun of, hate and throw away. The only favors people enjoy are food favors… but I am already paying 1000’s of dollars to feed my guests and there is going to be more than enough to eat and drink.
So this got me thinking… what is the point?
So I googled favor etiquette and found multiple sites stating that it is an ideal that was implemented by the wedding industry to get couples to spend more money on (for lack of a better word) cheap crap and it is by no means REQUIRED or NECESSARY!!!!
So I have decided against to not waste my money and not provide my guests with something they will throw away!
I am interested to know how many of you out in the hive have decided to NOT to have guest favors???????
Post # 3
We are not giving our guests any favors, instead we are donating money to three charities. We are splitting the money into three different charities that are very important to us.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No favors, AND no charitable donation. I don’t feel guilty AT ALL. After all, we’re not having a wedding for our own sake–all that money on food and booze and music is for everyone else (we’re lucky if we even get to eat it!).
I suppose if we had the money to spare a charitable donation would be nice, but we already do that when we can and I don’t feel any compulsion to do it when we can’t.
Post # 5
We may do a favor — if we do it will be a coaster with Cheers! In English, Irish and Slovak.
the other option we are giving is getting to-go cake boxes and having a cake buffet so guests can take their cake to-go if they prefer!
Post # 6
I’ve always found favors to be annoying and guilt-inducing. I always feel guilty for throwing away the piece of crap that my friends foolishly wasted their money on. I am not the least bit conflicted about not having favors. I don’t think it is anything that people really notice or care about.
Post # 7
You are making me feel less and less guilty about my NEW decision!!!!
Post # 8
Our favor/welcome gift is small, and there will be no welcome basket for our DW, just one small token for the whole shebang.
Post # 9
I’m doing a food favor, but only because it’s something my sister really wanted to do. I am with you on the favors… even food favors can sometimes suck (I’ve gotten two bad candy favors this month. TWO!!! This month!!).
Don’t feel bad, people won’t miss it if they’re having fun! And if they ask… well then, they just weren’t very gracious people, and probably didn’t deserve one!
Post # 10
We aren’t doing favours, for many of the same reasons as you.
Post # 11
Definitely don’t worry about not doing favors. I’ve been to two weddings this year that did not, and never heard a single guest comment about there not being favors. And I agree, a lot — even food ones — just get left behind.
We did milk and cookies, handed to guests as they boarded the shuttle back to the hotel (pretty much all of the guests took the shuttle, b/c it was a DW but not close to the hotel everyone stayed at). No idea if they were enjoyed or not. 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
I don’t think it is bad if you don’t do favors…seriously, there are some awful ones out there, and it makes me wonder why people waste their money on them! I don’t know what we’re doing for favors…but if we do, it will be food-related (either a candy bar or a take out box for our dessert bar).
Post # 13
I am not doing favors as i find them a waste of money , i know my friends will just toss them out anyway
Post # 14
Favors are a personal decision – do what is right and feels best to you. I definitely would prefer no favor to a favor I couldn’t use/wouldn’t like. We’re both baking enthusiasts, so make edible favors for our small wedding. That said, favors aren’t a requirement – don’t feel guilty for opting out. More eco- and budget-friendly that way. 🙂
Post # 15
We went to a wedding this past weekend and there were no favors, which got me thinking that we don’t need to do them either. As has been mentioned, we’re already spending a lot of money on the reception with the aim of providing guests a good time. I’m relieved to see it’s an option.
Post # 16
I’m not doing favors and I hate getting them! I am doing welcome bags though.