Post # 1
We were married three weeks ago. We put together really cute personalized candy bucket favors and had one out at ever place setting. That’s 240 favors, but we end with only 230 guests. About 30 full favors were still left at the end of the night and about 70 buckets without candy were left.
This begs the question, are favors even really necessary? Do guests appreciate them??
Personally, I do, and I enjoy getting a little memento of the day but apparently that opinion isn’t strongly shared.
Post # 3
We put a lot of time into our favors but I really think it was worth it. We had little white boxes filled with personalized M&Ms. I figured people would enjoy a little sweet snack at the wedding.
I’ve been to a few friends houses since the wedding and I was pleasantly surprised to see that some people had actually saved them. I thought that was pretty cool.
Don’t get bummed out about the full favors being left behind, if you think about it in terms of the number of people who came to your wedding, there were only 20 people who didn’t take a favor. Thats less than 9%. That means that your favors had a 91% success rate!! As for the 70 empty buckets, that 70 people who you know ate the candy!
Post # 4
We’re not planning to do “favors” BUT originally we wanted a candy or dessert buffet and it’s not happening, so FI wants to put out those old fashioned candy sticks (in our colors) with thank you signs…
Post # 5
DaisyBride- thanks for putting it into perspective. When you look at it that way I guess our favors were more successful than I thought. Even if 70 people didn’t want to take the buckets home they at least enjoyed the candy, also I just had another thought and that’s the possibility that couples might have decided one bucket was enough for them.
Post # 6
Querida – I love the old fashioned candy sticks!! Num!!!
Post # 7
I don’t know… I’ve been to a million weddings, and there often so much food there (cocktails, 3 course dinner including dessert, cake, late night buffets) that food-based favours at each place setting usually get overshadowed by the REAL food that fills your belly up and makes you go “yum!” I honestly don’t think that guests appreciate favours as much as we would hope/expect. Being environmentally-concious, I also often get frustrated by all the material that gets wasted when guests are given little trinkets that “seem” like a cute idea in the planning process, but really aren’t the guest’s taste or have no purpose. Or the cute little jar/holder/box that the favor comes in has no purpose when what’s inside it gets used up. Just more stuff to end up in the landfills.
As a guest, I prefer NOT to get favours, as the meal/party is favor enough!
Post # 8
as a guest, I couldnt care less about the favors. I either toss them at the hotel or leave them…or eat them on teh spot. We left bags at the candy buffet so people could take if they wanted, but we didnt bother with formal favors because of that exact reason
Post # 9
I second @skobies’ thoughts. Well said! 🙂
FI and I are not giving away favors, but making a donation in lieu of them. Hopefully, our guests will appreciate the gesture, and not miss the small box of candies. 🙂
Post # 10
my mom plans on making blueberry jam for our favors, but i am considering doing the donation thing and writing it out on the jam bottle tag… although the donation won’t be HUGE since we’re only having 50 or so people…
Post # 11
As a guest, I could care less about the favor. Like KellyV, they end up being discarded for the most part.
We did donations in our guests name as our “favor”. We printed little bookmarks with our extra paper from our invites and explained “in lieu of a favor, a donation has been made in your name to the National Park Service”
We got a lot of good feedback from that, plus it fit with our personalities.
Post # 12
I think a donation is the way to go. But we are also setting tiny bags with traditional jordan almonds at each place setting so there will be something tangible there, even if its only purpose is that it looks cute as part of the place setting. But each bag will only have 5 almonds, so it really is a token.
Post # 13
Anything edible, I’m all over as a favor, and love taking them home. Especially if they’re homemade (like the jam idea someone previously mentioned). I think that’s so cute when it has special meaning. Chocolates, candies, etc. I think are a nice favor, usually because people always have a ride home after the wedding at some point, and it’s fun to snack on.
Most other non-edible favors, though, get discarded in our family, sadly. I hate saying it because I know at the time, The Perfect “Pear” candles seem like a good idea, but really, when will anyone ever use them?
My current fav favors are little bottles of olive oil or spice mixtures for cooking, and wine bottle stoppers. I think those are really cute (and useful) favors.
We ended up doing a candy buffet as the favors. I have yet to know if it will ne a success, but it was definitely the right choice for our personalities.
Post # 14
People always seem to forget that half of their guests are male. A lot of the things that we think are super cute and swoon over are things most men have no use for.
Post # 15
I got my guests chopsticks and candy since I’m Chinese and everyone invited could use them. They really liked it and thought it was a great practical gift they could use on a daily basis to remember us when they used them (since our names were engraved on them).
Post # 16
I like ediable favors as well. I think favors are mostly for great aunt suzy who is like 80 and must have her take home trinket. I think the favors with the younger generation is dying out.