FB weirdness – Should I tell this guy he was inappropriate? Does he sound drunk?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Should I say anything about this? It bothers me but I'm not sure I want to deal with more weirdness
    Yes - the initial post was inappropriate and the emails weird. : (11 votes)
    44 %
    No - it was inappropriate but drop it and forget about it (and delete him off of FB) : (13 votes)
    52 %
    No - it actually wasn't that weird : (0 votes)
    Other - please explain : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Ok it sounds like he’s crazy! Just block him!!

    Post # 4
    Member
    7910 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Has his account been hacked?

    Post # 4
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @canuckandakiwi:  I just laughed…a lot. That was very weird. I think I would just not reply and leave it alone. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    6365 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Sounds mainly like he’s a bit of a nutcase, and also that he’s racist, I think, but he’s such a nut, it seems he has many other odd thoughts as well (his post and emails don’t really make any sense) it seems hard to take personally… he doesn’t seem to mean it as an insult at you, but he doesn’t seem to understand how the world works, in many ways, including the fact that just because people look different with different ethnic heritage, it doesn’t mean you can tell anything else about them, but, I’m guessing, so much more. I don’t even want to guess what his views on women are, for example.

    When dealing wih a relatively harmless nutcase, I would gently distance myself. No need to argue with him about anything… he won’t understand it anyway. The amount of distance I’d recommend would be based on how amusing you find his odd rants and whether you’re under any social obligation to keep in touch with him. If none and none, I’d gently phase him relatively quickly right out of my life, online and otherwise.  

    A little concerning that he is a father, btw.

    Post # 8
    Member
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Something is obviously not right with him. Since you aren’t close friends, there’s really no point in confronting him to find out what. It can only lead to more awkwardness. I’d delete him or, at the very least, block him. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    That is super weird. I wouldn’t say anything though. What’s the point?

    Post # 10
    Member
    6365 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Oh… just saw that you said he normally doesn’t talk this way. That’s concerning.

    I’m afraid it sounds like he’s having a psychotic episode. He may be developing schizophrenia. That’s very sad. If so, generally this will have on and off phases, but get worse over time. Yes, it could also be alcohol or drugs, but I suspect psychotic episode. Hope his wife/parents/siblings are aware of the situation. I might contact them just in case, if you happen to know them.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    3617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Weird!!! that happened to me once… a friend/acquaintance from college started sending me Weird and inappropriate messages that were totally uncharacteristic of him. I found out later from a friend that he had sent her similar messages. I guess he was different than he led on to be in person!

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