FBIL cheating on his pregnant gf…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kafrine:  Stay out of it.  If this is how your FI’s brother is, then this is how he is.  There is a chance, if she does not already know, that she will find out and walk.  There is a chance she may stay and ‘take’ this behavior from him.  At the end of the day, he will always be your brother-in-law, and her role is still uncertain. 

It sucks, but again, there is a good chance she already knows, and is ignoring it to live in her la-la land of having a ‘perfect’ family. 


Post # 4
4819 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Trust me, she knows already. She just doesn’t want to upset her vision of her “perfect little family”.

Post # 6
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Kafrine:  The GF will figure it out soon enough because your BIL will either buck up and take responsibility or, more likely, run screaming for the hills and then bitch about paying child support.  I hope he at least learned a lesson about safe sex practices.

Post # 7
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Especially since she’s so close to delivery i wouldnt say anything although I see why you are tempted! It sucks that dirtbags like this find girls to reproduce with. She’s going to have to face the reality of her situation sooner or later. I hope to god any daughter of mine will know to steer clear of assholes like him. I would probably be pretty cold to my FBIL though. Ugh.

Post # 8
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would stay out of it. And, just because its on FB, it doesn’t always mean it’s true LOL  It’s what she wants everyone else to think she has, in reality, she is probably miserable.  The only thing you can do is support her and help her with the baby, since I am sure baby daddy will be no where to be found after the baby is born.

Post # 9
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Kafrine:  stay out of it. You have no idea what the confines of their relationship is, for all you know they could be in an open relationship or he could have her blessing to sleep with other people. At the end of the day their business is their business and your business is your business.

Post # 10
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@Kafrine:  Poor girl. Poor kid. There’s nothing you can do, but be there for her if she leaves him (which I would advise). The pregnancy was a big mistake for both of them ; they are immature emotionnally speaking and are not ready to have a child. Hopefully, she’ll be able to raise him alone and with support from her family.

Post # 11
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i feel so sorry for her and her baby.  hopefully she will realize what is going on and dump him.

Post # 12
2184 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

This is super difficult. Honestly… I would tell her. I know most will say stay out of it, but if someone were cheating on me, I’d want to know. 

Post # 15
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

There’s not much you can do here- he is going ot be your brother in law forever, while it sounds like her family position is pretty rocky. That’s not to say you should be friendly to FBIL, I would have zero issues letting him know exactly what I thought about the situation in no uncertain terms. For her, the best you can do is be a caring friend that helps her get through what sounds like a very rough time – esp with baby here so soon. Visit her often, clean/cook/buy groceries and minor household necesseties, help with baby as much as you can, just let her know that she has someone there that cares about her well-being. 

Post # 16
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t say anything. In all honesty, she probably already knows. She might not want to admit it to herself or anyone else, but I’m sure she knows and is posting things about her “happy little family” on facebook as a way to compensate and convince everyone else (and herself) that everything is perfect.

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