Post # 1
I feel awful for my FI! We aren’t able to change the date this close to the wedding without facing a big fee (which we CANNOT afford) We’re all going to miss him so much and I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like without him there.
I’m thinking we’ll say a prayer for him and have everyone sign a card. It just seems like such a poor substitute for having him there. 🙁
Post # 3
Is there room in the budget for a videographer?
Or even a generous family member that can be bribed into video taping the ceremony? You could have your guests address him during the speech or something, and include personalized messages to him!
Post # 4
I’m really sorry… that’s so hard on a family for someone to miss something that important. Maybe there would be a possibility that he could record a message to you guys before he deploys that would be a secret and you could play at the wedding, or even just you and your FI watch it?
You could do the same for him and save it on his laptop so he could watch it en route. I’m sure he’s just as sad to miss it… it’s very hard on the service member to know they are missing something that important, but not be able to do anything about it.
FWIW, you might want to consider editing out the exact day he is leaving, and how close it is to your wedding… it’s unsafe for your FBIL to have those details out in public.
Post # 5
Aww, that sucks. 🙁
If you guys are the jokester type, I’ve seen some really funny photos taken of people holding up a cardboard cutout of someone’s face on a popsicle stick when the person wasn’t able to be there. You could send the pics to him to cheer him up!