- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I am crazy stressed about my FBIL and his behavior. This might be long…sorry!
Here’s some background on him…He’s 28, no job, lives with parents, and “studies” for school meaning he’s really playing computer games non stop. He lives off of his student loan money.
FBIL lives with his parents about 1.5 hours away, and likes to come up to FI’s apartment almost every weekend. I wouldn’t have so much of a problem with this, but every time he is up here he lays on the couch watching TV (and the computer in his lap!!), and then at night goes out gets wasted, drives back drunk, then repeats the whole thing over the next day. He will say he is just coming for the weekend, but then ends up staying a whole week! My FI works night shift, so the only time I see him is weekends mainly. So when I am trying to get alone time, FBIL is laying around, leaving food out, staying in the bathroom for an hour, complaining, picking fights with FI, really the list goes on. In fact, on our anniversary this past May he “joined” us in watching a movie, and annoying repeated the lines.
Earlier in the week, FI specifically told him NOT to come up to the apt this weekend. We had engagement photos early in the morning, and were going to have a nice lounging and lazy day. On Saturday morning, after e-pics and eating a nice breakfast, FBIL is sitting on the couch at the apt!!!! This guy is so inconsiderate and disrespectful! He has a key to the apt, which I told FI it was a bad bad idea to give him one from the beginning. FI told him to leave, but FBIL wouldn’t. FI just let it go like nothing happened, but wasn’t happy about him being there.
I HATE this. FI and FBIL’s parents always excuse his awful behavior. FI also never does anything because “that’s just how he is”. FI and I don’t live together, but if we did I would have called the police on FBIL for not being willing to leave. FBIL also WILL NOT give the key back…he refuses. FI is talking about changing the locks, which is probably an empty threat.
I don’t know what to do or how to react…I’ve called him out and he’s just been disrespectful and rude. My wedding is in 7 months and I really don’t know how I am going to tolerate this.