- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So my FI’s brother got engaged 6 months before we did and his wedding is 6 months before ours. It’s all good and has been fun doing mutual wedding planning with his lady.
FI’s brother just decided last month that in March he wants to go to Toronto for the weekend to see a sports game for his bachelor party.
This means he gave about 2 months for the guys to save up for this. To fly from our city, attend a game, stay at a hotel, and party is about a $1000+ type of trip…
FI and I are currently saving up for our wedding of course. Neither of us make a lot of money (at all), and this is well known to the family. While FI’s brother is supportive of the fact that he might not be able to go due to financial restrictions, being his best man, FI feels AWFUL about this.
Am I being selfish to think that asking your wedding party and friends to spend $1000+ for a 2 day event is a little out of line? If they can’t, they’ll just feel guilty for not being able to make it. If they can… well… who is that rich anyways?
I’m offering verbal support because I understand this is his brother’s bachelor party.. however… This is an INSANE amount of $$ for a two day trip while we’re trying to make lifestyle restrictions in order to save a few bucks for our wedding.
I feel selfish, but I think that if we can afford to contribute $1000 to them, it should be to them as a couple for their honeymoon or wedding present… not to a 2 day bachelor event that will take away from their wedding gift as funds are (or course) limited.
Am I nuts?