- 6 years ago
I have been with Fiance for 2.5 years. I’ve been planning our wedding for 1.5. I have gone to every single family function, regardless of how I was feeling or how uncomfortable things were for me. I have been by his family’s side at the hospital for days on end while his grandmothers have been getting operations/sick. I have taken the time to develop relationships with everyone. Future Mother-In-Law is like my second mom, and we spent A LOT of time together.
Anyway, two months ago, out of the clear blue, Future Brother-In-Law called and told Future Father-In-Law he had a gf (T) and she wanted to meet the family. Several plans were made for us to meet T. All of which were cancelled at the last minute because T was “sick”. Eventually, we found out T is a severe alcoholic and didn’t want to come around us because she didn’t want us to find out. Since then, Future Mother-In-Law and I have met T twice. Future Father-In-Law and Fiance have met her twice, too, I think. The rest of the family has not met her.
Last Thursday we got the call the T is pregnant and she and Future Brother-In-Law are immediately getting married… after a three month courtship. Now, T is automatically apart of the family. But, I had to work so hard? I feel slighted. NOBODY in FI’s family has told us congratulations on our engagment. But, when FBIL called to announce this doozy, he got congratulated?! Of course, another major issue is, Fiance and I are getting married in eight weeks. So, when, exactly is Future Brother-In-Law planning to squeeze his wedding in? I’m not a fan of siblings getting married within a short time frame of one another, due to the stress on the family. I know the opinon on that varies here, but we’re having a Destination Wedding and people are already pushed to their financial limits.
Idk. I know all of this probably sounds ridiculous, but I am feeling ridiculous and I just needed to vent and get this off of my chest. Thanks for listening/reading!