Post # 1
I somehow have this fear that my family (other than mother and sister) won’t be able to attend my wedding. I had a lot of family at my first wedding 14 years ago, but we also lived in the same state and same metro area as most. Now that I’m out of state and this is #2 for me, I fear no one would want to spare the expense of flying or driving, hotel, etc for a VERY small wedding and reception (4 hours total). We’re planning for 35 but I doubt we’ll have more than 10 – mostly local friends.
Is this a logical fear? Is anyone else going though this?
Post # 3
Have you talked to your family at all about this? For my second wedding, my daughter and my brother and his wife came from Oregon; my sister came from Mexico, my son came from New York, and even my ex-husband came from Maryland to be at my Massachusetts wedding.
Post # 4
@CARA1978: I’m in PDX metro–I’ll come 😉 JK. I hope that the people you really want to come can make it. Talk to people, and find out?!
Post # 5
🙂 I did give them verbal and email save the dates and they are excited, but unsure if they could make it. Most are on the fence. The SoCal family are less likely to come (people in LA don’t like to leave, at least my family doesn’t). It took almost an act of god to get my aunt from LA to go to the Bay Area for my grandmother’s funeral. She’s afraid to fly so she took the train and drove. She’s hasn’t been outside of LA for almost 35 years before that. This is to give you an idea, LOL.
Post # 7
For my second wedding I had a good amount of relatives fly in to Maryland from California. I was pleasantly surprised. I think it has more to do with your particular fmaily than it being a second wedding.
Post # 8
I feel ya. I was expecting 60 now looks like 40. One of my long time bff thinks this is not the “one” either so she isnt even trying to attend.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@CARA1978: I have the same fear myself, especially since part of my family is quite religious and weren’t very happy about my divorce (they only supported it because my ex husband didn’t want kids and they felt that was an acceptable reason to divorce.) A few family members have already expressed that they can’t make it for various reasons and I feel like if it were my first wedding they would take the time to attend. My FI has been really sweet about it, especially since he convinced me to do another small wedding when I really wanted to elope on an extended honeymoon to avoid this particular worry.