Fear of committing to the venue…

posted 3 years ago in Venue
  • poll: What should we do?
    Book Evergreen - it's too cool, find a way to make it work : (3 votes)
    10 %
    Book Arts & Letters - it's gorgeous and on budget : (15 votes)
    48 %
    Keep looking : (13 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    @MsGinkgo:  I think your hesitation means you should keep looking!

    Post # 4
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    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Keep looking!!

    Your story is similar to my own….

    FI and I looked at TONS and TONS of venues, and none were perfect.

    There were two we liked well enough – one I loved, but was crazy expensive (we’d have to make some serious sacrifices if we wanted to book this place); the other was soooo afforable, and lovely, and the staff were wonderful, but the cocktail hour would have been semi-public (the cocktail hour area was the hotel bar, which was open to other hotel guests…. awkward?).  We were torn, but my dad convinced me to keep looking.

    So we kept looking, and then found the perfect place. PERFECT. I never had “the moment” with my dress, but I totally had “the moment” with that venue!

     

    Keep looking… you’ll find one that fits your budget and will be perfect! 🙂

    Post # 5
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would DEFINITELY go with the books place!

    Post # 6
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’d say keep looking (but I’m pretty sure I’m a certifiably insane person who just backed out of her contract hours before signing it).

    On the other hand, I’d be super careful about a too-big venue.  We were in love with one from the pictures, but it held 400 when we needed 100, and it just sucked all the charm out of it when we were actually there.  The space was beautiful, but imagining a handful of tables together with huge empty spaces on the sides of the room was a dealbreaker.

    Post # 8
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    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  Well, the second place really is beautiful… I like it a  lot more than the expensive one. And if it’s one you know you love, and if your only hesitation is that there isn’t many pictures online… I say bite the bullet and go for it! Make it completely YOURS.. it will be unique and totally you. 🙂

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    10888 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @MsGinkgo: I had this. Think it’s because you get used to researching and looking at different places and once committed you know there’s no going back. Just listen to your heart and head. 

    Post # 11
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    10888 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @MsGinkgo: Exactly. I say stop, take a breath, take heed. 

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’ve gotta say, I’m with jdhall89 If you put too few peple in a too big venue, its looks weird… Like half your guest list didn’t RSVP.  If you can think of ways to “bulk it up” it might work, otherwise, I’m for option #2

     

    Post # 13
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    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Forgot to say, I’ve got two fab venues to pick from and I can’t commit to one either! 

    We’ve been looking *everywhere* and finally have two that tick the boxes, are on budget and, like you, are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!  Can’t pick between modern minimalist luxuary or intimate comfortable romantic…

    (it doesn’t help that “Just Elope” keeps popping into my head too!)

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree with PP on a too big venue. I love the top floor of the Chicago Public Library, but it holds 400 people–our group of 150 would look sad and lonely. Especially with such an open space and high ceilings, I’d be worried about that. Also, we had prom at Museum of Science and Industry and the dome is so high I’m pretty sure its impossible for it to feel full no many how many people you put in there!

    How many places have you seen? We researched tons online, and kept changing our requirements. We’re (finalllllly) ready to book (I think) but I feel like we’ve seen everything that’s possibly a good fit for us. I think our venue will be lovely although I’m not as lucky as the others who found something super perfect (our guests will be in three adjoining rooms, which I don’t love). But I don’t think waiting any longer will help in our case–we HAVE seen plenty of places.

    I’d also be concerned about needing to bring in everything–not just for the expense but for the logistical nightmare you could be signing up for.

    Post # 16
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MsGinkgo:  Frown I totally know where you’re coming from. We’ve seen so many places too, and researched tons more. I think we’re about to end up with a place (old mansion) where people will be eating dinner in three adjoining rooms–and its still pretty expensive, but I feel like this really is it. We’ve seen the options, we’ve looked it all up and this is our best choice. I get so jealous of the girls who talk about finding the absolute perfect venue and its within budget and has their date.

    Arts & Letters looks really neat (and very unique too!). Our venue has mostly terrible wedding pictures online, which is why we weren’t even going to go see it, but I think in person people will love it.

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