Post # 1
Okay, I know there have been several of these types of posts lately, but I need advice for a unique situation. I have finally found and chosen a great venue for my wedding reception. Only one small (or large) problem, no dancefloor, and no music allowed. It is a private room in a restaurant so they cannot allow a band or DJ (I’m not sure about maybe just using my laptop to play music on low volume), and there is no dancing space. So what is everyone supposed to do after dinner?!?
The reception will be four hours long. Dinner will probably be about an hour of those four. What are some things I can do to keep people entertained?
Post # 3
We are having a daytime wedding and I am doing some research on games that are room-interactive. Maybe you could look into games everyone could get involved in?
Post # 4
think i’d try to drag out dinner as long as possible…but honestly it does seem like people will get bored.
Post # 5
@Atalanta: jeeze the girl asked for ideas not for people to make her feel worse
@Pinksapphire: I agree with the pp that said games could help. Is there any way that you could have an “after party” at a friends/family’s house.
That is what we are doing. We will have about 60 guests for dinner at a restaurant. I will play some quiet music. Do toasts and such. Then we will just go for drinks and mingling at my fmil place.
Post # 6
Maybe you can have a video slide show and some other form of entertainment (magic show, etc.)
Post # 7
Wow. Yeah, I’m not sure what to say about that one. Except maybe cut your time down some, where it’s not 4 hours??? Is there a bar, like out in the open with everyone else?
What is the age group of people that will be attending??
Post # 8
@Pinksapphire: Usually when we go to dinner with my in laws meals typically last 2 or 3 hours. I dont think people will get bored!
How many people are you having? I would start with cocktails and apps and let everyone mingle for an hour or so. Then order entrees and and people will continue to talk and enjoy themselves. Then dessert/wedding cake and more cocktails to end the night 🙂
Post # 9
My friends wedding was like this and we didn’t get bored. I don’t think it was four hours long though… We just spent the time socializing. They had a magician go from table to table and I would not recommend that haha. I like the idea of letting guests mingle for an hour before serving dinner.
Post # 10
I think it depends on the size of your group and their personality. We really worked hard to plan music and dancing ofrour reception and very few people decided to actually dance. I was heartbroken! But, my now husband tried to remind me that our families don’t really dance anyway. Having soft music playing in the backgroud would be nice, though, and it wouldn’t interfere with conversation.
I decided that the most important thing at our wedding was the food and drinks. People like to mingle and talk and if they have good food and a drink in their hand, it’s a good party!
You could plan a slideshow set to music, with pictures of you and your fiance over the years… like from childhood on… I saw this once as a gift to a bride and it was amazing.
Post # 11
In addition to some of the other questions: how many people are attending? What time does it start and how much time is in between the ceremony and dinner/reception? Also, will the seating be a few long tables, or several small tables? Is it assigned seating?
If it starts at 5:30, for example, you could break it up and have some entertainment before dinner, then have dinner, and then have mingling/entertainment after dinner. That way it won’t seem like there is too much time with nothing to do.
Also, is it plated, family style, or buffet?
Post # 12
We didn’t have dancing at our reception and we had to almost kick people out at the end of the night because everyone wanted to stay and chat.
We made the whole night about eating a fantastic dinner, having great drinks, and catching up with people you don’t get to see very often (a lot of our friends came in from out of town and loved that they actually got the chance to catch-up). We had four courses that we spread out, about 45 minutes/course. We did speeches between courses when the dishes were being cleared. We had a free-flowing dessert (sundae bar) so people had a reason to get up and mingle. We had a guy playing background music on a keyboard (not as cheesy as it sounds), but it created a “loungy” atmosphere.
Basically, when DH and I thought of the “perfect” night we would spend with our family and friends, dancing was never a part of it. We like to eat, drink and talk, so that’s what we built our wedding around. It was perfect!
Post # 13
We had our wedding dinner in a private room and only had an IPOD for as background music. Ask if they will allow you to do this. We had an open mike when it came to speeches since there was less than 40 ppl. “Crazy” Grandma threatened my DH w/ her cane and told everyone my age. Priceless
My DH and I was also able to talk to all of our guest and take pictures. Everyone was having such a great time, we closed down the restaurant.
Don’t worry, your guests won’t be bored:)
Post # 14
People won’t be bored! If you’re haivng multiple courses, the dinner will certainly last more than an hour. Will there be room for people to mix and mingle, drinks in hand, after the dinner?
I was worried about this because we didn’t have dancing at our wedding. But the party was amazing. Everyone just talked and talked. The energy in the room was so much higher than I thought – it was great. (55 guests, at my mom’s house; the reception lasted between 4 and 5 hours.)
Post # 15
there are tons of fun wedding games out there to get people involved
i saw this one on four weddings. loved it
Switch the shoes
The Bride and Groom each give the other one of their shoes and then stand back to back in front of the guests. The MC or DJ then asks funny what-ifs to the couple like “Who will take out the garbage without being asked”. The Bride and Groom then hold up the shoe for the one of them that they think fits the bill. Everyone gets a kick out of how the couple answers the questions.
Guess the truth
The bride and groom are asked a number of personal questions before the reception. The MC or someone in the wedding party makes up multiple choice answers for each question including the correct answer. Guests are asked the questions and by a show of hands we get the popular answers and compare them to the actual answers.
Roll the Dice: You’re probably familiar with tapping forks against glasses to see the bride and groom kiss. Here’s a twist on that old favorite: Have people pair off at their tables. (This will be even more fun if not all couples are male/female.) Between dances and courses, each couple must roll a pair of dice once. If they roll an even number, then the bride and groom kiss…but if they roll an odd number, the rollers must kiss!
There are tons of wedding games out there that i would love to take part in . haha
Post # 16
@totheislnds: These sound like great games! I’m loving the Shoe one!
@Pinksapphire: It looks like everyone has some great ideas! I would definitely take them up on it!