fed up

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you might be at the point in your relationship where you have to ask yourself how long are you willing to wait? He has given you no timeline, isn’t open to discussion about it, and isn’t taking the steps he claims would make him ready…to me it sounds like he has no plans to marry any time soon, if at all. You need to ask yourself, “if he never marries me, will I be ok with that?” If the answer is no, I’d probably think about moving on.

He’s obviously old enough to know what he wants and to settle down, he’s kind of making it clear that he’s not at that point. How much of your life are you willing to spend waiting and hoping when he won’t even discuss the subject with you?

Post # 3
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Sounds like he’s really not in the same place in life as you. That can be very hard and often make for a mismatch in couplehood, simply because the two people don’t enter into the partnership with the same goals and ideas.

If he doesn’t like planning or thinking ahead, how does he plan to get out of debt? You are young, so you probably don’t need to worry so much about having kids immediately, but have you talked about a timeline regarding kids with him?

Has he always dreamed about his wedding day? Maybe it’s about him and his idea of the wedding he wants, I don’t know.

Good luck.

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