Post # 1
I am not a gamer. Never have been. never will be.
2 of my exes were gamers to the point of obsession. My DH was different. He rarely played games when we started dating. That was until he got this bloody ipad.
Every day when he gets in from work he does a bit of washing up, has a shower, sits on the sofa and starts breeding dragons and fighting demons.
I on the other hand change the baby, make up her bottles, cook dinner, put baby to bed and sit on the sofa next to DH and get ignored!
I think hes getting sucked in. I often go up to bed early as quite frankly i get bored, i hope he will follow. nope. He grabs my laptop. logs onto favebook and continues playing on the larger screen.
I HATE THESE APPS
I hate logging into my facebook to see a snail got lost in Mr Bs dragon kingdom etc. I might unfriend him haha!
Post # 3
@ChocolateLime: Time for a discussion. Maybe you guys can come to an agreement about what time during the evening can be for game time? Yes, it sounds like something you do for a child, but hey if the shoe fits?! 😉
Post # 4
Ugh, sorry to hear that. I could never be or be with a gamer. I cannot imagine a bigger waste of time, money, and intellect. Maybe hide his iPad when he’s at work and not tell him where it is until he acts like a decent husband for an hour or two? 🙂
Post # 5
@ChocolateLime: My bf loves to game as well and I hate it. Whats worse is that I’m the one who bought the stupid system in the first place lol. Facebook him a few little naughty messages…that should get his attention! lol
Post # 6
I’m totally guilty of being on my iPad all the time too, but you need to have a talk with him about priorities. Let him know that you two have to work like a team to make sure everything runs smoothly. Let him know you understand playing with his iPad is his “me time”, but let him know that it can’t come before chores or other household duties.
Post # 7
Just talk to him about it. He probably thinks that when you’re sitting on the couch together, and he’s on his iPad, that you’re spending time together, even if you aren’t talking. If that’s not how you see it, then you need to tell him as much.
Post # 8
I think you need to have a talk about it. Just as games might be annoying to a non-gamer, getting nagged for gaming as a gamer is equally, if not more, annoying. If you can set boundaries and limits of what is acceptable, you’ll both feel less resentment. That being said, I think it’s difficult for gamers and non-gamers to be together (I’ve dumped plenty of guys for crappy dps), so communication is even more important.
Post # 9
I would talk to him. I think that’s so sad that he would rather play a game then spend time with his baby.
Post # 10
@MrsTVLover: yep me too. I dont care if hes playing few games after shes gone to bed within reason but even when hes watching her in the play room. shes in the play pen and hes sat on the bench on his ipad.
@housebee: I have never nagged him for playing games. Up until now i have just let him get on with it, hoping its just a phase he will get bored of.
When we were on our honeymoon it was great. He still played the games but we would also play scrabble and quizes TOGETHER. Now we are home he just want to play his usual games to get to the next levels.
I went to bed early last night. shortly after posting this. I left this page up on my laptop as i knew as soon as i went up to bed he would use my computer. I secretly hoped he would read this and get the hint. He didnt
Post # 11
@ChocolateLime: Hobbies are fine and all but him leaving you to parent the baby all alone is completely unacceptable. Definitely time for a serious discussion.
Post # 12
I’d be tempted to plop the baby in his lap (unfed, unchanged) and get lost in a good book, maybe during a bubble bath, to underscore the point.
Post # 13
Oh I have to admit that I had the same problem before, well maybe not as much as your husband as I do a lot of house work (actually I do more than my wife). I am not a hardcore gamer, I haven’t turned my playstation3 on for more than a year now, but I like spending some time with my iphone tho. You have to talk to him before it becomes an addiction, I was nearly addicted to my mobile, but after talking to my wife and after seriously thinking about it, I decided to use my mobile less and spend more time with her. I stopped playing tho kind of games (those that are very addictive)
Post # 14
@ChocolateLime: I’m more concerned that he’s not helping with the baby (by the sound of it).
Post # 15
@paula1248: I am starting work again on Friday night so he will have to do the last feed, bath, story and bedtime routine with her. I will be working sunday lunches too so he will have her most of the day so lets see what happens then!
@ryo: I think hes getting addicted. He will put it down for maybe 5 minutes then pick it back up again and start playing again. I have noticed his bedtime getting later and later as hes still playing.
I had this problem with an ex that ended up not coming to bed until 2-3am. Needless to say that relationship didnt last.
My Husband knows the impact my exes gaming had on our relationship. This its time to remind him.
Post # 16
@ChocolateLime: You really need to talk with him, let him know how you feel. What saved me from being addicted was my wife and also the fact that my game crashed and lost of the data, so I couldn’t bother restarting from zero again.