- 7 years ago
Okay, I went above and beyond helping FCIL with her rush-to-beat-me-and-FI-down-the-aisle wedding. I did so much stuff for her and put up with so much I can’t even begin to type it all here.
First, FCIL is verry wishy-washy about stuff. She would ask me my opinion on something, act like she was going to do what I said, then do the complete opposite. I got so tired of her asking my advice because I knew she would end up doing whatever I said NOT to do. I am a certified wedding planner, so I know a thing or two. I would adivse FCIL to do a certain thing, then she would go ask people who have no clue about weddings and do what they told her instead. Of course, ending up in disaster, each time. FCIL is the type of person who doesn’t believe a word you say. You could tell her the sky was blue, and she’d turn around and ask someone else. She’s so insecure about stuff, I guess.
Anyway, FCIL interrupted my Sunday one time and made me come to her house to handmake pew bows for her wedding. I happily and willingly obliged. I sat at her dining room table and glued and cut and struggled with ten elaborate bows, complete with tulle, ribbon, and flowers. All the while, she sat outside drinking and talking to other people. She came in the house after a while and told me how beautiful the bows were and how much she liked them. She showed them off to everyone at her house. I was proud of the work I’d done. We still needed six more, though, but didn’t have the supplies to make them. A couple of weeks later, FCIL said that she didn’t feel like buying more supplies to make the other six bows, and so she’d ordered these hideous ribbon pull-bows from eBay to use instead of the ones I’d made. I was livid! I felt like she just didn’t like the ones I’d made and hadn’t wanted to tell me. She could have told me she didn’t like my work after I finished the first one, instead of letting me spend the next six hours making more! Her eBay ribbon bows ended up being so ugly, but whatever.
FCIL never wants to do anything for other people. She goes on and on about how she will help do anything I ask her to for my wedding, yet, when I ask her for very simple things (or if anyone does) she acts like it is the biggest inconvenience of her life! I don’t want to ask anyone for favors if they’re going to make me feel that way. Yet, anytime she needs something, she comes calling on me and FI. FFIL and FMIL have noticed this too, and they’re sick of it as well. She is constantly needing FMIL to help her pay for things for her child, and babysit, etc. Yet, when FMIL needed a ride to and from her colonoscopy, FCIL threw a fit that FMIL would dare ask her to help!
I am tired of this! FCIL even had the audacity to insinuate that I should choose her as MOH over my sister! She said that MOHs have responsibilites to the bride that my sister can’t fulfill. But, the way FCIL acts, neither will she! She volunteered herself as a BM, her daugther as a FG, and her husband as a GM. I made it clear that this was a huge committment because she’d have to purchase attire for her entire family, AND pay to come to my destination wedding. I know she’s going to end up backing out. I can just feel it. If she does, we will not be talking again. I’m not going to be somebody’s go-to girl for favors if they can’t be bothered to do anything for me.