- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
Funny how “FMIL” and “FML” look so similar!
The whole mother-daughter relationship thing is not gonna happen, and I’m fine with that…
I’m done trying to figure out my FMIL. She is not super close with my FI (only child), nor does she have any family of her own. When FI and I started getting serious, my mom and I (who are very close) began incorporating her in outings, dinners, family stuff, etc. She seemed grateful b/c in the past often said she was envious of the relationship my mom and I had. She has one son; it’s different.
Lately (as in the past year or so), it’s been weird. I mean, she’s always been a bit bizarre but she seems very fixated on FI when it comes to family gatherings. For instance, will hold a conversation with JUST HIM while we’re all out at dinner, or if my mom and I are telling a story about something, i.e. the time we went to the beach when I was a child, instead of listening she has to compete and say, “Well when FI was little, I took him to so and so every year, remember that, FI? Remember when we did that?” It’s just odd and unnatural.
Besides a few notable things she’s done and said lately that I haven’t been able to shake, this passed week just did it for me. Her birthday was last Thursday, so I called and had to leave a message. I said on the message to call me back whenever and we could plan something, take her out or whatever. Also, my mom sent her a birthday card.
Needless to say, she never called. Not only did she not call (me or my mom) but called FI and said, “burlapnlace left me a message and her mom sent a card, I have to call them.” She called FI at least 2 more times since then and still, neither of us.
So now this weekend is Mother’s Day. I decided to say “f**k it!” and do something I WANT to do with my mom instead of a forced, awkward dinner with all of us. I’m done. I’m tired of it! I’ll send FI with a gift and a birthday and mothers day card, and that’ll be it.
Make me feel like a not-so-horrible person about this! Who else has experienced distance and rudeness from their in-laws? Please, feel free to share!!!!!