Post # 1
…I just sent my photographer the menu for her to choose her meal. She responded back to me that since most of the photography will be indoors and she wants to make sure the lighting is perfect, that she’ll be bring in a second shooter at no cost to me, but can I feed him?
Honestly, my budget is tight and I even though it’s only $55 dollars and I’m getting a second shooter for free… I’m having a hard time agreeing to this. I have to re-do the seating chart and pay for another chair.
I can’t really offer a vendor meal because they would be eating with my guests at the same table, plus I already offered her the full menu, so I can’t really take that back. I guess I can have her pass the menu along and hope that he picks a cheaper meal.
Post # 3
Does she expect to be seated with the guests? My photog ended up eating with her 2nd shooter at another table (because I hadn’t realized she was bringing one). There was extra food and my venue made sure he had a meal. It wasn’t a big deal and we ended up paying for guests who didn’t show.
Long story short – yes, feed the 2nd shooter!
Post # 4
Tell her the situation!
Say you can’t really afford to, however you can get them a easy, fast meal to eat before hand, or after. If they don’t accept that as an option you need to refuse the extra service due to your constraints.
I was also offered a 2nd person for free. However, I’m feeding them subway before the reception (they don’t sit with guests, and are not getting vendor meals). So all I really had to do was buy another sub.
Post # 5
Are you sure your photographer expects to be seated with your guests? I’ve never heard of that. I’d feed the second shooter, you’re still getting a deal.
Post # 6
$55 for even more shots of the day you spent so long planning and so much money all already? No brainer, do it!
Post # 7
I’m a little confused why you are seating her with the guests? I would have just done the vendor meal- and typically they do not sit with guests.
Post # 8
@sheilad72: I was going to say this!
its worth it – id just pay it. I had to pay for my photographer and my DJ to eat – it was the least i could do for them, they did an amazing job all night. whats $55 in the grand scheme of things. plus you get the second shooter!
EDIT: does your venue have cheaper food options? i know we had a choice between giving them the food we wer eating or a boxed sandwhich meal which was cheaper.
Post # 9
I can’t speak for the 2nd shooter situation, but I know for my wedding, we didn’t have a seat for our photographer. She was running around the whole time and ended up just getting her meal to go and snacking on it as time permitted. I’m pretty sure that’s what your photographer(s) will do, too.
Maybe just ask them for clarification on if they would expect to be seated with your guests, or just eat off to the side somewhere.
Post # 10
Our wedding is so tiny that I felt like it would be weird if I feed her a different meal and had her eat somewhere else, so that’s why she’s sitting with the guests.
Would it be horrible of me to just offer him the vendor meal and have him eat someplace else? That seems a little mean.
Some of my co-workers said that I should tell her the head count has been submitted and I can’t change it now. That also seems mean.
FI is going to freak out.
Post # 11
We had two photographers and they alternated eating so that at least one person was always taking pictures. Maybe explain to your photographer about the space limitations and ask if they could switch off during the reception? Then, you only need one place setting for two people, and there won’t be a break in pictures during dinner.
Post # 12
I’ve never been to a wedding where the vendor(s) sat and ate with the guests. That seems odd to me. They usually get seated some where else since they’re running around working all night and just grab a bit to eat real quick when they can.
Post # 13
@yellowshoe: I’ve always sat close to the bride and groom when photographing a wedding, but most of my clients are friends and friends of friends, so that might be why.
Post # 14
It seems odd they would sit with the guests, small wedding or not. As far as the meal, I would say you really appreciate the 2nd shooter. Would it be ok to ask that instead of both choosing from the full menu, could they choose 1 of 2 cheaper options?
Post # 15
I’m contacting the venue to see what their normal procedure is with vendor meals and I will go from there.
I just keep telling myself… this is not that big of deal…breathe…this is not that big of deal…
Post # 16
I would definitely feed the second shooter. Especially if there is not extra charge for him. You’re saving more money in the long run.
I plan to seat my photographer, DJ and band members at one table on the outskirts of the venue.