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Small bit of background: together over 3.5 yrs and live 90 miles from each other. See each other on weekends only, speak every day on the phone.

I am FED UP to the point of spoiling for an argument with my boyfriend for not answering his phone. At the moment he isn't answering; either because it isn't with him (despite it being a mobile) or because he is sulking. If he is sulking I'm even more cross.

He said he would learn to drive when he qualified. that was September 2008. I have waited OVER A YEAR and he hasn't even booked a lesson. All I get is "I'm sorry" "I'm useless". I don't want self pity, I want him with a driving license! I hate driving, I'm almost phobic about it, I am not going to be his chauffeur when he comes and lives with me. The public transport here is pretty extortionate and abysmal. I don't bug him constantly, I ask about every month maybe even less if he's sorted out anything for driving. Then he sulks, thinks he's crap and goes into a zombie mode. I try and be as understanding as I can, but right now he is REALLY trying my patience. I don't like driving but I still do it. He really needs to grow some and act his age. If I tell him this he'll just sulk more and the cycle will repeat....

Ahhhh I needed that vent.

I have considered it. I'm his girlfriend though, not his mother, he should be wanting to do it for a life skill. I did it just so I knew how to and not because I wanted to. He says he hates driving too.

I'm more cross that he's not answering the phone at hte moment. But what really gets me is this happens EVERY time I mention it. I don't say it horribly either. If i mention it when we're together he goes very quiet and down and beats himself up about it. I don't care that he hasn't already, I just want him to show signs that he's willing!