Post # 1
I am 24 years old and “moved in” with my boyfriend of 2 years. (I use quotation marks because I started sleeping over more and more and one day just stopped sleeping home! Lol. It’s our little joke that I am just sleeping over). Living with a boyfriend for first time, I often feel guilty that I “ditched” my parents! Obviously this is not the case, but I guess that’s how you feel after spending the first 23 years of your life with your family. Don’t get me wrong, I am absolutely thrilled about living with my boyfriend!! I wouldn’t be able to sleep home now to save my life!!) I know it’s all just a part of growing up, but I still feel like a little girl at heart! I hate missing out on little things, like my mom cooking supper and us eating it together. (side note, my bf is an extremely amazing cook so it is more of a sentimental thing, and with everyone’s varying work schedules they rarely eat supper together anymore anyways.) I went home yesterday and my mom had a note for my sister that her supper was in the oven, and it made me sad. I often wonder if I visit my parents enough and do feel guilty that, after them raising me so well, I just kind of casually and slowly left without officially telling them I was moving out or anything (like I said, it just kind of happened!) Does anyone else feel this way? And if so, what is an acceptable amount to see your parents so you don’t feel this way? Thanks bees!
Post # 3
Awww sweetie… I’m sure your parents are just happy to be able to walk around naked again for the first time in 23 plus years.
Joking, but really most parents hope to raise a child that grows up to be self sufficient. I moved out to college 6 hours away when I was 18 and never came back so I don’t really know how often adult children that live locally should visit but I’m sure they appreciate that you care enough to be this concerned 🙂
Post # 4
Aw! I know how you feel. I don’t live at home or with my boyfriend as I am finishing grad school about 2 hours away, but I am anxious for when I move home and move in with my boyfriend and not back home with my dad. I think I’m extra anxious because my mom died when I was little and my dad never remarried. I know he’s happy I am happy and in love and I am sure your parents feel the same.
Post # 5
Maybe you can pick one night a week to visit with your parents, like Sunday night dinners, so you can all get together?
I feel the same way, I find it really hard to move forward and not feel l ike I am leaving everyone behind. I hope you get some good advice, because I am over 30 and I still feel this way!
Post # 6
I think it will be very hard to decide a specific amount of times you need to visit family for it to be “enough”, I mean it is very much up to yourself to try and see.
I wish I could visit my parents more often but since I study very far away it is more or less only possible during summer and winter breaks…
Post # 7
@SapphireSun: Hahaha thank you for that image 🙂
@theshannondee: Awe, I’m sorry about your mom, but you’re right, he is definitely happy that you are happy 🙂
Thanks girls 🙂 I know it’s all a part of growing up and will come with time! 🙂
@kerensa: I am glad to know I’m not the only one 🙂
Post # 8
Thats so sweet you feel that way. Maybe you should invite them over for dinner. I actually just officially moved out last month, Fiance and I bought a house and while I spent a lot of time at his place, I still went home a lot. My mother actually had some sort of panic attack/breakdown type thing. Needless to say she made things difficult.
Post # 9
Girl, I totally know how you feel! I left for college when I was 18 then moved back home after I graduated and stayed there for 2 more years, then moved 3 hours away for grad school (and to be with my now husband). I felt so sad leaving my parents and I felt bad not visiting them all the time. 4 years later I still feel the same way but it’s not as constant as it used to be. My family always spent a lot of time together and ate dinner together….and I spent a lot of time with my mom. So sometimes I wonder if she feels sad because I left her…but at the same time I know that she’s happy I have my husband and I’ve grown up to be successful. I go home about once a month now and it seems like my family understands that I’m grown with my own life now so I don’t feel as guilty. I do however try to make more trips home if my mom asks when I’m coming home again. My friends that live in the same city as their parents go home for dinner once a week and that seems to work well. Hang in there–it gets easier! And…at least they still have your sister at home (at least that what it sounds like?) so you shouldn’t feel too guilty!