Post # 1
So, a good friend recently got married. Again. To the same guy. He’s in the military so she married him so she could live with him on base (courthouse). At their celebration for that, I bought them about a $50 gift. This was two years ago. I was in her wedding this year and it was a traditional wedding. Then, she had a shower this year that I gave a $50-75 gift. At the wedding I gave $50 cash. I felt like my wedding gift was cheap, but it all added up to a lot. I’ve thought about buying her something else and sending it to her (as I know it’s acceptable to buy gifts up to a year after wedding), but I’m not sure if that’s unnecessary or overkill.
What are your thoughts? I just researched and said people usually spend an average of $100 on close friends. But does that include shower gift or is that outside of that? I don’t want to be a bad/cheap friend!
Post # 3
To me that includes shower gifts, and you’re well in the clear.
Post # 4
@Skittles131: overkill-you’ve done more than enough!
Post # 5
@Skittles131: You give what you can afford and what you want to give.
Don’t worry about looking cheap or comparing what you give to what someone else would give.
There are no rules. If $50 is all you have then that’s just fine.
Post # 6
You have done way more than enough. For a second wedding to the same person I wouldn’t give a gift at all, maybe a bottle of wine if I really felt like giving, but as far as I’m concerned, the weddng gift is meant to help the happy couple establish a household together, and they did that two years ago.
Post # 7
You already gave them a wedding gift. I wouldn’t have gifted again — don’t worry about it.
Post # 8
Thanks everybody for the validation. I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t making a huge faux-pas or something.
Post # 9
@Skittles131: i think you are ok!
Post # 10
@Skittles131: It all adds up – I think you’re fine.