(Closed) feel like all my friends are ticking baby time bombs except me.

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@globalmargaret:  Oh wow.  That sounds dreadful darling 🙂  I mean that in the nicest way possible.  I know you are in a small town, so that sounds rough, and maybe there aren’t lots of other young folks to be meeting.  That would be difficult to deal with.  I really think it has to do with being in a small town. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Do you wish you could have children? If so, you could adopt…?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Give them a chance — your friends might surprise you!  Recently our two closest couple friends both had babies, and I thought for sure I would never see them again.  But they totally surprised me by suggesting get-togethers, mere weeks after the births.  Sure, what you do might be different (takeout at their place so they can also watch the baby, or going out to a restaurant right across from their place so they could return if the baby fussed too much), but it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ll never hang out with you again.

Then again, with some parents, it might mean that.  But you never know!  🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I totally understand how you feel. Among my closest group of friends a lot of the couple were having babies and I almost wish we had more time with them just as married friends before the kids started popping out. I am not going to lie.. It does change the dynamic. Not to say that you will never see them again, some people are better than others at balancing being a mom and having a social life where they can meet up with friends or have adult only dinners every now and then and some don’t know how to ever leave their child. My advise was going to be meet new couples similar to you to hang out with but it seems you live in a very small town so that may not be possible.   I’ll hope you get stationed someone bigger where maybe you won’t feel so along in being child free! But in the mean time don’t give up on your friends, and be the one to make the initiative to hang out or host an adult only dinners. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@diplomatswife:  “Give them a chance — your friends might surprise you!”

On top of this, maybe you’ll get the ability to bond with the kids and become their Auntie. My parents have a pair of childless friends who are basically family to us, and basically like an extra set of aunt/uncle. It’s for sure different than being a parent, but if you like kids, it is a possibility.

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