beth2507: Ok first of all….you have to love yourself and do the weightloss FOR YOU! not for how you think others will see you! that was my biggest mistake…i would yoyo diet all the time…so not healthy….all because i was worried people would think im a “fat bride”….but then I looked at myself one day after i almost passed out trying to crash diet because my wedding was 8 months away at that time and i had gained 5lbs instead of losing 40lbs….and i looked at myself in the mirror….i saw what made me unhappy and then….i had an epiphany when my Fiance got home….it dosent matter how people see me at any weight….i will only see the things I deemed needed fixed no matter how thin i became….this is my body, i love myself, my fiance loves me…and the weight im loosing now has NOTHING to do with the wedding…it has EVERYTHING to do with making myself happy and HEALTHY!
After the passing out episode i talked to my mom and a nutritionist and my fiance….and my mom showed me something from highschool….a few photos of me when i was in reality at the “goal weight” i was invisioning being for the wedding and myself….i looked SICK, i am barrel chested, athletic build, and am such a stocky build that when i got that thin…i looked like i was dying….it was a picture of me in a bikini, and you could see my bottom ribs, a few vertebra, and my face oh gawd….i lookedlike hell….my eyes were sunken in, i was even paler then normal….it was bad….and with the nutritionist she talked to me about healthy eating (not fad diets, not clean this, or cleanse that) but being HEALTHY….not a number on a scale….and ya know what…after that i have lost about 25lbs….not what i wanted, but i feel better, i exercise, i eat right, and i take care of myself…..
I go to zumba 3x/week because i love doing it….FI goes on bike rides with me….i go lift, i do yoga….I found what I enjoy to work out doing….not fads…..myfitnesspal.com is my friend it helps me make healthy choices in everyday life….FI and I both changed because we want kiddos soon and we want to be around for them and show them how to be healthy and fit….not skinny….
I am sure you will be gorgeous at any weight…and we are our own worst critics….but if you take anything away from this *DO NOT loose weight for the wedding, loose it for YOU because YOU want it off, not what you think anyone will think, because if it is for everyone else, you will never be satisfied, trust me! if you do it just for the wedding you will probably gain it all back in a few months and feel miserable….it is a lifestyle change that i work at everysingle day, i talk to a nutritionist (shes a friend of the family but is very good and has done her job for 20 years) every so often…and i avoid fad diets, pills, programs like the plague….because alot of them arent really good or you (like living on juice or a month, really bad for you)…
oh and i also learned the heard way….do not try and just drastically reduce your caloric intake, you need to match what you burn yes, but going nuts to loose weight puts your body in starvations mode, and after awhile it will store anything you put in your body because it needs the fuel….and has some really severe health consequences down the line….
bottom line…make yourself happy and your opinions of yourself good/happy ones before you try and please anyone else….