feel like FI is porn addict

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

My opinion is that you need to have a serious talk with him about your finding and what that you are very upset from him lying to you. But another thing, you need to now that marriage is not easy, eventhough he might have lied and that i understand that you’re very upset right now but you can’t base the whole ida of weather or not you should get married on that single incident. Of course it’s a huge matter that he lied to you and you shoul to him about it. But for me it’s alarming and it seems like you just want a reason to get out of the whole marriage thing. 

When you do talk to him ask him why he does it? Maybe he doesnt feel attracted to you anymore. Maybe he wanted to try something out and you have refused. I’m not saying that it’s your fault but I’m sure that you both need to talk honestley together. Tell him that youre upset about the lying and tell him that it doesn’t have to be like before sex everyday but that you llike him to do an effort to keep the romance and the sex in your relationship

good look 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lpore3003:  that’s a betrayal but I feel one you could overcome. He may be watching but not masturbating at work ( I hope not). A ton of people get caught watching porn at work (remember the federal scandal) and I know they weren’t all yoinking it at their desks. This may be what he considers mild(aka him not needing it like before you all were together) and he may not feel like he has lied.

i would be sad if he was already being taken care of instead of having sex but I also see where life may hinder your old sex routine. Definitely talk to him and just say your hurt and hopefully you will get some answers. 

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