Post # 1
I have always gotten along great with FI’s family. Over the last few weeks, I feel like they have started to pick on me and my parents. First one of them accused my mom of not sending them an invitation on time with all the others (even though that was not true). Then I found out another member of FI’s family wasn’t coming to an important event only through her Facebook status at the last minute. I confronted her about it and when she apologized I said “Ok I understand” and ended it. Now she is going on and on about how she doesn’t like me anymore. FI’s mom also called mine asking weird questions about the shower and being very awkward. She also has been in the habit of mentioning how she is not involved in the shower, even though my mom scheduled at a time and place that was convient for his mom even though it was inconvient for everyone else.
I don’t know what to do. These things keep coming up and I hate thinking that we are going into this wedding with his family hating me. They are the EXACT same way about another woman who has married into the family and it drives me insane.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If they’re the exact same way with another woman, looks like you can’t take it personally.
Are you close enough to Future Mother-In-Law to talk to her about it? Who is telling you that “she is going on and on about how she doesn’t like me anymore.”???
Post # 4
I would confront them gently. Something like, “FMIL I’m really concerned you feel like you’re being left out. We’ve specifically planned things around you and since that can’t be it, is there something else we don’t realize we’re doing?”
Likely she’ll say no, or brush it off. In which case you go, “I’m so glad to hear that, but wanted to let you know I feel like you’re unhappy with our upcoming wedding. I’ve sensed a change in our relationship over the past weeks, and I’m concerned.”
Something like that?
Post # 5
@Americano: I think I will have to try something like that if she brings it up again.
Now FI’s cousin in apparently mad at me for no reason. I saw her at a family event today and she said hi and goodbye to me and that’s it – she was being SERIOUSLY cold to me, and I wasn’t the only one who noticed. It made me really mad – after all, I did nothing but stand up for myself, AND I did it tactfully and with understanding. Then I said NOTHING after that. The only thing I can think is that she takes Facebook REALLY seriously for some reason, and probably thought that I was attacking her by saying on FB that I had such a great weekend thanks to (name of Bridesmaid or Best Man who planned my bachelorette party). Come on!
I want to get along with her but she is SO immature and can’t take the blame for anything. She’s the kind of person who takes pictures of herself every day and posts them online and waits for people to comment (and if they don’t she posts it again a few hours later). But we used to get along so well, and I’m sure we can in the future when she is more mature, but I DON’T want her in my wedding if she’s going to hate me and I can’t kick her out now. What do I do?!