feel like giving up (long)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

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Post # 3
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415 posts
Helper bee

Cancel the wedding.  Go to therapy for yourself.  Figure out what *you* want out of life and out of the relationship.  Perhaps you will figure out that you don’t even want to be with him.

Post # 3
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415 posts
Helper bee

Sorry, DP.

  • This reply was modified 3 years ago by  doeydo. Reason: DP
Post # 5
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8477 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Well if it’s going to be a big mess either way, you’d be better off canceling the wedding.

Post # 6
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Please call off this wedding. It’s clear you are not in love with your FI. he deserves someone who is excited and loves him and can’t wait to spend the rest of his life with him. You need to find out what you truly want. It is not him. Trust me, when you know – you will know. It seems you are settling. He’s not the right one for you and visa versa. 

Post # 7
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1655 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

Postpone/ cancel the wedding. You need to analyze how you feel without wedding stress clouding your judgement. Wedding anxiety alone can be a doozey but if your questioning if you love him, there’s more to be looked at. 

Stay away from “grass is greener boy”. That shouldn’t be a catalyst for your soul searching. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

“i concluded his actions were under the alcohol influence”

<br /><br />Yeah…I’m concluding he’s not the only one ‘under the alcohol influence’. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years ago by  MrsYokiman. Reason: WTF random html codes?
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you don’t feel 95% certain that you will last another 40+ years with your fiance, it’s time to call off the wedding. A few doubts are normal, but it looks like you’re more interested in keeping your freedom and exploring who else is out there. 

Post # 10
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821 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Sometimes, you need to get really badly hurt by someone to realize how crappy you were to someone else. I agree with other posters; your FI deserves much better (at least gauging the situation by the facts provided).

Post # 11
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Home

How old are you? You don’t sound like you’re ready to get married at all. You aren’t concerned about your FI at all and don’t seem concerned that you almost had an affair (that’s what it sounds to me). You need to delay/cancel the wedding and lay everything out to your FI so he can decide if he’s willing to work through this with you.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Don’t get married. Seriously. Read your post out loud to yourself and listen to yourself.

Post # 14
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2607 posts
Sugar bee

Is this a real post? 

You need to cancel the wedding.

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