Post # 1
Things have really been rolling the past couple of weeks… I’ve booked the photographer, officiant, venue, and caterer PLUS my dress is already purchased and the rings are in.
I am having the feeling that I am doing too much too soon. I am trying to stop myself from looking at wedding bands to go with my new engagement ring, I want to purchase several bottles for centrepieces, I want to order the invitations (everything is booked and confirmed) and I just generally want to get everything out of the way?
So am I just being weird in thinking that 9 months in advance is way to soon to be purchasing the bottles for centrepieces or looking at all the details?
Part of me wants to get all of this stuff out of the way but another part of me is yelling for me to slow down as I literally have months to do this stuff.
Post # 3
@JessicaJupiter: It’s better to be too early than too late! I’m September 2014 and I’ve had everything booked for months already. I have all of the centerpiece/bouquet supplies, and I’m taking my time assembling.
No worries! 🙂
Post # 4
My wedding is November of this year and we already have a lot of things booked, made and bought. I told my FI that it makes sense to buy things early because A. we have the time and money right now and B. it will be a little less stress for us when we start getting closer.
Post # 5
Lol, I am getting married half a year after you and my planning is in full swing. To me, that’s the benefit of a longer engagement, I get all that planning time. Also, in my area, venues and vendors go fast. We were actually planning on March 28th, but that date was already booked more than 14 months in advance.
Post # 6
I think it’s better to get things done while you still want to plan (sometimes you hit a wall in planning and just don’t want to do it anymore) and that way as the wedding gets closer you won’t have as much stress 😀
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@JessicaJupiter: 9 months is definitely not too far in advance to be planning! I started booking most of my stuff last March, so it’s all locked in and prepped. But I wanted to be able to give myself plenty of time to get stuff done and not have to rush closer to the date.
Post # 8
I’m getting married this October and so far we have a wedding and reception venue, and I bought my dress/veil/head piece. That’s it. Lot’s of ideas, but that’s it. I wish I had more stuff done, like you do. Then I could just relax and enjoy being engaged:)
Post # 9
I was planning a Sept. 2014 wedding. Basically everything was booked/bought before December 2013. At the end of Dec. I found out I’m pregnant, so while booking everything early could have been a disaster I was able to move all my vendors and we’re having a May wedding instead. It’s nice knowing that everything is ready to go and should be low stress from here. (I did have to change a few fall decorations to spring and re-order the invitatons)
Take advantange of the time you have though. Because you can afford to wait, I’d keep an eye on sales and coupons and wait until you see a really good deal. Also, make sure before you buy stuff you actually have a place to put it, somewhere that it won’t drive you crazy being in the way. We live in a one bedroom apartment in a house FI owns, so we don’t have much space and literally put a storage container in an out of view place on the yard to store everything (we bought our own glasses and dishes so that is a huge space user).
Post # 10
@JessicaJupiter: Hun you are doing fine and not too early!!! I am still working on a few things and its getting to crunch time to get them done….(catering is my big one on the to do list! we had one hesitated on booking and she got snatched up!!) out in our area where there is not a plethera of people to choose from for most wedding related things….they get snatched up for prime dates really fast!! (example our church and reception hall have the best prices in the area, AND we are getting married in Nebraska during husker football season on their Bi-week! so yeah we had to fight and book early for what we wanted!! and for the record we did not get our top choice photographer, caterer, and DJ since we hesitated on booking them thinking it was too soon, and yup bit us on the butt….we booked the photographer LAST October!!)
it is better to get things done early!! that way you have time for trial and error!! We are also paying for absolutely EVERYTHING in our wedding, so piece by piece buying things when they are on sale is our salvation…lol….Heck I already have FIs wedding bands (1 for work 1 for fancy times!) locked up in our banks lock box because they went on sale so I grabbed em on black friday!!
plus 9 months is going to fly by!! We have bought our invitations when they were on sale, and we are purchasing some parts for decorations now some later!! (we bought our candle votives already because they went on sale after christmas!
9 months isnt that long!!! and I still have a lot to do soo I am trying to kick it in gear!!! so when its 1 month to the wedding I am not having a panic attack thinking I forgot something or realizing I forgot to do something I really wanted and then I either A.) cant afford to do it anymore, or B.) its not available anymore!
SO if you have your stuff nailed down for sure, start working on little projects at a time, that way if something dosent work right you have time to change to a plan B.
Post # 11
There’s nothing wrong with getting things done early! My wedding is not until November and I have all those things you listed done, as well! I even made my bouquet already and ordered our invitations! It’s better than leaving it all to the last few months and getting stressed.
Post # 12
These responses certainly make me feel a lot better with where I am right now and I no longer want to slow down and instead keep on going to get this out of the way.
@Brokensound21: That was one of my thoughts. I am currently in college so I do have a lot of convenient times on my hands to be making phone calls and running out for appointments or to shop. We also have the cash to be making certain purchases so I think that it is better to spend now so we don’t need to worry about saving it all for later.
@HisIrishPrincess: I would hate having to do this stuff if I wasn’t in the mood to plan, I’d likely put it all off and end up settling for things I really didn’t want. I am so excited right now so I may as well work off of this adrenaline and then I get to relax when I no longer want to plan so much.
@CoCoCourtney: I am keeping an eye out for deals but then I get nervous on whether or not I should go with it because I never know when a better deal will come along in the future or if that is a last chance deal! Luckily anything I buy can be stored in my mother’s basement in containers so I can literally buy anything and I’ll have a spot to keep it.
@kansas_nurse: I seen part of the benefit of doing everything now is that if I screw up there is time to fix it, but at the same time I worry that I am wasting money making choices that I may not want in a few months because I found something better. For example, last month I ordered a bunch of blue satin flowers to glue to a ball for my bouquet but yesterday I was at a craft store and seen how beautiful their fake flowers were so now I am conflicted, but luckily if I don’t use them for that I have time to incorporate them into something else! I’d really hate to be on the last minute crunch and realize I missed something and there is nothing in town and no time to order it!
Post # 13
@JessicaJupiter: I am leaving boquets and stuff until this summer….for that reason…close enough to know what i want, and yet far enough out that if i suck at DIY then i can still get a back up done….and if i buy flowers i dont want in my boquet and stuff i am sticking them in my fillers pile for centerpieces, and other general crafts(i make alot of my own wreaths for the seasons….) but the biggest thing I personally have found is!!!! WAIT FOR IT!
When I find what I am sure I want (ex invitations! and I order them! I stop looking at invitations (i had a crisis moment and almost ordered some completely different because i was curious what else i could change my mind too)) Flowers you can always mix and match, no one says you have to have all silks, or all fakes, or all real flowers….once i decide, I move on to the next detail, and the only reason i go back is if i a.) need to re-arrange budget wise and find a cheaper alternative/can spend a little more, or b.) i discover something later on that shifts that vision a little bit! We are keeping pretty simple though….so it may not work for everyone! But its what works for me! and I keep reminding myself that I have a tight budget, so I am 99% sure before I do anything wedding related…
Post # 14
Better to have stuff done too early while you are motivated than to be stressed out later!
Post # 15
My centerpieces were the first “detail” item I bought and that was over a year out from my wedding date. I don’t know about you but I feel a huge rush of amazing releif with each item I cross off my list!!
Everything you can get done will just save you stress closer the wedding when you will want to feel relaxed!
Post # 16
I think the earlier you get vendors booked, the better! As far as decor and little details, those are the things you can wait until later for, since you may change ideas aout how you want things to look