- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
This year for xmas me and my SO agreed to a $20 limit on the gifts we would get each other, because we split the cost of a $1000 3D HD TV on black Friday so we considered that our gift to each other.
I ended ug getting him a $20 gift (bean bag chair for gaming), but then couldn’t resist getting him this $80 bluetooth keyboard for his iPad. So needless to say I went over.
On xmas morning he gives me my gift in a small package (jewelry sized). I wasn’t expecting a ring since we discussed this would happen in 2012. I open it….and it’s this cute little pair of earrings you see below. On first impression, I thought they were adorable, and purple is my favorite color. I’m not good at faking a reaction, and I wasn’t blown away or anything so I just pleasantly thanked him and told him I liked them.
That is until I looked at the receipt! He kept in the bag I’m assuming b/c he wanted me to know how much he paid (not b/c he wanted me to exchange them if I didn’t like them). He paid $300 dollars for these earrings that I only liked (but didn’t love)! And the only reason I liked them is b/c 1) they came from him, and 2) they are purple which is my favorite color. I tried them on and liked them even less b/c they are so small and dainty…even he said you probably won’t be able to wear them very often. Not only that but he pointed out that they are 10 ct gold! The diamonds in them are extremely small, so unless the purple stone is some rare precious stone I’m not seeing why they were $300!!!
I’m not very good at masking my feelings or holding my tongue, so I asked if he was sure he didnt overpay. I didn’t want to outright tell him I don’t like them (especially for the price) and I wanted to pick something different. So I told him I wanted to go back to the jewelry store just to “see what else they have”.
I feel like I’m being ungrateful, and like I should just suck it up and keep them, or in his words “just be happy with what he got me.” But at the same time I feel like there are so many reasons I can’t be happy with them. 1) He went WAY over our $20 budget, 2) I don’t think the earrings are worth what he spent, 3) that money could have gone toward my ring fund (nowwww we get to the real reason I’m not happy, lol), 4) I feel that he’s acting like he has hundreds of dollars to blow, but he hasn’t even given me his half of the TV money yet, and last but not least 5) he bought them on xmas eve (but claims he knew for a while that’s what he wanted to get me)!!!
Anyhow….I am going to the jewelry store today to see what else they have, and possibly pick something different. I feel bad, but at the same time I don’t. If he’s going to spend that much, I need to like and be able to use the gift. Mind you he LOVED his gifts and has been using them every day since xmas.
My last thought on this is…this brings attention to how challenged my SO is in the area of picking nice jewelry for me. He’s given me jewelry 2 times before (a necklace one vday and a watch last xmas)….and each time I’ve pretty much had to act like I liked the gifts more than I actually did, and also wear them frequently to show that I appreciate them. I’m scared b/c this man is absolutely opposed to me having anything to do with picking my ering!!! I can’t imagine what he’ll get and I already know it’ll be a big disaster when I have to tell him I don’t like it. Pray for me as I try to strategize about how I’m going to pick my own ring without him feeling like I took over the process. There’s no way I’m letting him do it alone. NO WAY!!!
So back to the matter at hand…am I wrong and for wanting to take these back and get something different? Am I being ungrateful?
SN: Now that I look at the earrings in the pic they actually look much more beautiful than they do in person, making me second guess myself even more. I also told him I like them but I prefer either studs (I had mentioned needing diamond studs not too long ago) or bigger earrings. I’m not one for the dainty kind. *Sigh*