Post # 1
I’ll admit it, I’m a total people pleaser. I’m working on it, because it always ends up costing me time or money to try to please others, or I have to go out of my way to do something for another person.
A family member always wins stuff through a radio station. Like every couple months. He lives in the burbs west of the city, I work in the city and live in the burbs east of the city. He emailed me at work last summer and mentioned that he was kind of stuck for being about to get down to the city to pick up his prize (which were concert tix I believe for that week) and asked if I would mind picking them up for him and shipping them through his company’s Purolator account to him. I agreed then and ended up shipping them a different way because his account wasn’t working.
2 months ago, he emailed and asked again if I would mind picking something up from the radio station. I happened to drive that week instead of taking the train so reluctantly, I agreed to do so and ship them back to him. He said thanks so much, blah blah blah and said offered me a part of the prize pack which was a 1 night stay somewhere. I didn’t check my email again that day so the next day I responded with a “Oh wow, if you and __ aren’t going to use it, that would be great, thanks so much.”
The next day he takes it back saying they actually are going to use it now. Fine no biggie. Kinda rude to offer something but whatever.
Yesterday he emails again to ask to pick up a giftcard prize he won. I don’t think people realize that picking something up in the city isn’t exactly convenient for me either. I have to drive 20 minutes there then 20 minutes back on my lunch hour. Which I actually don’t really get because it’s a small office so if you leave for a half hour someone is always looking for you. But because I agreed to do it one time and acted like it wasn’t a big deal, doesn’t mean I want to do it all the freaking time.
Anyway – I waited a day, (how passive aggressive of me,lol) and responded that my car is on the fritz so I’m taking the train in and I don’t have wheels to get around to pick it up this week. Which is actually true. It’s just annoying. I am totally venting here, but I hardly ever hear from this family member and if I do it’s to ask a question about someone else or to talk about his young kids and family. Like, can you maybe ask me how I’m doing?
EDIT: sorry this is so long!
Post # 3
@jlc3: ugh that just puts a bad taste in my mouth. I wouldn’t say anything (bc starting something over this is probably not worth it), but I would just be unavailable if he keeps asking. like, “I’m swamped at work” “I have an appointment” and if you took the train. (I’m saying flat out lie each time, but hey- you could have an appointment with your favorite book and a glass of wine 🙂 ) If you’re consistently not around, then he will hopefully stop asking.
If he doesnt get the hint, however, then he might need you to explain you’re not a courier service.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
lol.. I would’ve been like, where my case of beer/bottle of wine in lieu of gas money??
If he can’t pick it up, he should let others win it. It’s that simple.
Post # 5
i’d pick up the prize and keep it/use it for myself. just tell him “oops i lost it!”. then he won’t ask you to pick up the prizes anymore. 🙂
Post # 6
I would be unavailable from here on out. If he does ask again I would reject him, making sure he knows how much of a hassle it is. Example:
“Oh no I’m sorry, I can’t do that. My car is in the shop. I have to take the train. Even if I did have my car I would have to miss out on lunch and take an hour to drive to pick it up. I’m sorry, it’s not possible.”
I’m guessing (hoping) that he doesn’t understand how much of a pain it is for you.
Post # 7
@jasonkatie2014: & @AlwaysSunny: You guys are right, I am just going to keep being “unavailable” or have an appointment if he asks again. I do need to make it known that it is a pain for me, the first time I did it and he said thanks so much, I basically said oh it was no problem. I guess because i assumed it was a one time thing…dumb!
@Cynderbug: LOL! I love that response. And I agree, if you can’t pick up the prize, don’t call in to win it.
@calibee79: haha! this is true.
So update, the email I sent back is below…radio silence over the last couple days, not even a response.
Winner again! Awesome!
Just getting back to work after a bit of time off. Unfortunately my car is on the fritz, the ABS and brakes need some work so I’ve been taking the GO Train to and from work until I can get that fixed. So no wheels to get there in the daytime hours. Maybe if you call them they might be able to make arrangements to mail it out to you if you faxed them in your id and information?
That’s great about XXXX, woohoo! Hope you guys are doing well.