Post # 1
So the last 4 weeks I have been reminding FH to book time off work for the wedding.
Still no action. I actually have to remind him every couple of days… have you managed to book time off work yet? And the result is always’ aww I forgot!’ Ill do it tomorrow.. and he forgets!
I have now.. after politely waiting. Texted him at work and said, please book time off for the wedding, dates are (what we agreed on). So hopefully this time he will remember. If he forgets today after the text. I will be a little aggrivated
Also Ive asked him a few times to do simple things.. and Its not only till I remind him a couple of weeks later, he might even get around to it.
Anyone elses FH this forgetful? I do understand I am a type A person with organisation and I have resorted to leaving notes around the house for him to remember things. Its just getting to the point of annoying now, where its alot easier to do it myself.
Am I alone in this problem?
Post # 3
My husband is so forgetful! I have to remind him constantly to do some things or I just have to do them myself because he will forget. It took him months to set up an appointment with the dentist!
Post # 4
Definitely not alone on this issue!! I will probably face the same problem once it nears my wedding date! 🙂 grrrr
Post # 5
You are not alone, and I am sorry to say, it really doesn’t get better. I have been with FI for almost 10 years, and I constantly leave notes everywhere. Lately though, he has started at least carrying the notes around with him, so at least he is trying.
Post # 6
We are the opposite! He booked his time off pretty much the day we set the date lol, he is always reminding me about calling vendors and I always forget hahaha
Post # 7
I feel as tho I could have a tape recorder and just repeat it. With having wedding planning its just a little more stressful. Lucky.. im organised and ask him before the deadline… so i hopefully I get a few suprises and find things are done.
Today I organised the DJ even tho it was FHs job. I have asked him since we started wedding planning to organise it. Negatory, too much hard work. So i just went ahead and booked it. sent a text message and said, booked the dj! get a reply back.. ‘Thats awse! one thing I dont have to do!’
I almost felt compelled to give a sarcastic reply back. But i resisted! 🙂
Post # 8
you are definately not alone. if my fiance didnt have me he’d forget alot of things and nothing would get done lol guess its true when they say couples complete each other, i usually take things in my own hands and get it done. his txt message reply to booking the DJ is priceless! i get many of those kinds of txts from my fiance lol
Post # 9
We’ve finally found something that works for us. I’ve compiled a list of wedding to-dos and asked FI to pick one that we’ll work on each weekend. That way he can see everything that needs to get done and can select which one he wants to work on. This weekend, we finished our family wedding photos that we’ll have on a table with our “guest book”. And this weekend we’re finalizing our DJ worksheet.
I think it works because he doesn’t feel surprised (like I’m ambushing him with wedding planning) and he gets input on what to work on. And I feel good because things are getting checked off my to-do list and I’m not doing it all by myself!
Post # 10
Oh my goodness, I feel like my fiance is the most forgetful man on the planet! it used to really drive me batty, but then I realized that I keep track of our schedules and things that need to get done, and he keeps me sane and smiling, so I guess it’s a nice balance 🙂
Post # 11
I’m sorry 🙁
Can you teasingly offer to call his boss for him – and then do it? Or email him during the day when he’ll get it while at work?
Post # 12
We are totally reversed. I am the most forgetful person in the world and if I don’t have it written on a list, and the list is not in my purse — I’ve forgotten it.
Usually my FI texting me at the precise time something should get done works but sometimes I’m in a meeting/or about to go into a meeting and I’ll be all “I’ll do it in an hour” but about 4 minutes later, I’ve forgotten. Our new system is that FI writes me post-its if something is critical. When I get to the office I remove the post-its from my date book and stick ’em on my computer screen. It’s not flawless, but it works almost okay.