Post # 1
His best man is his best friend in the world (aside from me) and Fiance stood up for him at his wedding as Bridesmaid or Best Man. Now though, Fiance is really upset because Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t seem to care at all about what Fiance wants to do for his bachelor party. He’s pretty much made Fiance feel like every idea he suggests is a bad one (even convinced the other Groomsmen that they’re bad ideas – many of whom initially thought they would be fun) and to top it all off, insinuated that Fiance is a perv for wanting to go to a strip club. His words were ‘I guess you feel like you still need to get it out of your system’. EXCUSE ME?!! How insulting is that? I would never ever ever say something that condescending to even someone I didn’t like, let alone my best friend! I know in the grand scheme of things, it’s just a bachelor party, but for all intensive purposes, Fiance only gets one of his own in his lifetime and I feel so bad for him that I, his fiancee, want something so much better for him than what his Bridesmaid or Best Man is planning. I’ve offered to take him on a trip to NOLA since he really wants to go (and I know it’s not the same as going with the boys, but we could still have fun) but he doesn’t think this year is a good idea since we still have payments for the wedding to make. I just feel so awful for him… 🙁
Post # 4
Aw, that does suck. I’d have all the Groomsmen revolt and plan a party they know he’ll like. What does this guy have in mind instead of the suggestions your Fiance has given?
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
Yeah, definitely get the other Groomsmen involved. Maybe they can outnumber the BM!
Post # 6
I hear you on this one. My FI’s best man is his brother. He told him to decide what he wants to do, make all of the plans, and then give him a list of guys he wants to invite and he will call them. So basically he told my Fiance to do everything for his own bachelor party. Luckily I have a great relationship with my brother, who is in the wedding, and I know he will step up and plan without anyone having to ask.
Post # 7
Wow that is rude of Bridesmaid or Best Man to say. Since the other guys thought what your Fiance wanted to do would be fun, he should just tell them, “hey here’s what I want to do..” and let them do it!
Then again, maybe Bridesmaid or Best Man thinks a spa party would be funner for the boys so if he’s going to be a stinker about it, he can stay home. It’s not his damn party!
Post # 8
He suggested going to Foxwoods which is a fine suggestion…except it’s kind of in the middle of nowhere. And it’s fun for maybe a day…not a whole weekend bachelor party type thing. When Fiance protested that other than gambling and going to clubs (which Fiance doesn’t do) was the only thing to do and that the nearest ‘city’ with bars and a strip club was like an hour away, that’s when his Bridesmaid or Best Man put him down. I’ll admit, Fiance does have an antiquated idea of what a bachelor party should be like, but it’s his party, he gets only one in his life, and I won’t be upset if he goes to a strip club because it’s not like he goes all the time. So now, I think they’re going to go to AC…which Fiance is so not happy about. Part of me is hoping that Bridesmaid or Best Man (whom don’t get me wrong, I think is an awesome friend to Fiance otherwise and I totally like) is just playing a game with Fiance and they’ll actually do what Fiance wanted to originally do (road trip with the guys up to Montreal for the weekend)…I find that doubtful tho 🙁
Post # 9
awww @huney i TOTALLY understand where your comign from!
my FI’s best man is also his best friend (who got married when he was 23, Fiance threw him an AMAZING party… esp just having grad college, etc. with lil money)
anyway… FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man can’t even afford to put even something small together, let alone even just be organized enough to get the guys to pitch in!!
my girls are taking me to vegas and i feeel SO awful… Fiance doesn’t even think he’ll even end up having a bach party… i’m trying to think of ways to coordinate something with the best man (without bruising his ego) and the rest of the GM’s… to throw him something around town at the very least…