- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Okay, I’ll try to make it short.
I called my sisters, as you all recommended here:
And, they told me to just relax, and Mom had already said their kids could come, and I didn’t need to be so upset about it, because they should have been invited to begin with. It’s so patronizing, and at this point, I’m just…TIRED. Of trying to not let them bulldoze everything.
I understand this sounds crazy paranoid, but it’s how my family works, they all got together and agreed on this, and I feel like I’m on the outside of my own wedding.
I want to elope to avoid the stress, but I’m excited about the wedding Fiance and I are planning! it’s so full of personal touches, and we’ve worked so hard, I don’t want to give it up, but I don’t know what to do. Fiance is, of course, up for whatever I decide, but I can’t tell if I’ll be able to enjoy it, or if fighting tooth and nail to get there will just drain all the enjoyment out of me.
I’m so envious of the people who have families that help, mine only helps if it’s what they want: case in point–my sisters won’t help make the favors I requested, but they WILL help make the favors they think are best for me. (caramel apples, vs. truffles, btw. which, in the scheme of things isn’t so huge a deal, but it’s an example of how they work.)
I am the youngest sister, but I’m 25 years old, I haven’t lived at home for 8 years.
I don’t know what I expect from this post, I just wish they could be happy and not fight me on things–if I were being unreasonable, fine, but I don’t feel like I’ve asked for that much. I DO feel like I’ve held my ground on what Fiance and I want (no kids, small guest list, no alcohol (problems with drinkers on FI’s side), among other things.
What do you think? Should I stick it out and hope they can at least pretend to be happy for me? Or should I give it up, and elope?
Me letting them have the wedding they want, is not an option for me.