Feeling a bit depressed lately.. (long)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all, and I think it’s kind of mean that she has no faith in you! But at the same time, you gotta look at her point of view and see why she feels that way. 8 years is a long time to go without a job, so you might have to prove to her that you’re serious about saving enough money for the both of you to be able to afford your own place and to get married. I think I would have to tell my significant other how I felt though, and let them know that them calling me “lazy” and reminding me that I couldn’t keep a job in the past isn’t helping things now, so I’d appreciate it if they’d be supportive instead of so pessimistic. Maybe not in those words though lol.

Congratulations on the interview- wishing you luck and hoping that it’s the right fit for you! Seems like things might start to look up for you- stay motivated!

Post # 4
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@GuyBee24:  Because you are the one who has to do the work, she doesn’t get to decide if you are up to it. Kudos for wanting to improve your life. I have invoices all over our house, that doesn’t mean I don’t file things away at work… there is a significant difference. Take the job and see how it goes, she’ll come round I am sure.

Post # 5
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1179 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congrats on the interview. I’m not sure if you should mention your disability in your interview though (I don’t know what kind of disability you have but if it affects your ability to work they may frown upon it) I hope everything turns out great. Don’t worr about your FI, she’ll come around.

Post # 6
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Many many well wishes to you for your interview! I hope it goes well and you can start building a future with your lady <3

 

I do think what she was saying was a bit unnecessary but she could be worried about getting her hopes up and is trying to deflect as a result, I’m sure she’ll come around 🙂 

 

(also going to second the comment that how you are at home shouldn’t affect who you are at work 🙂 I work in retail so good customer service and neat folded clothes are a must, at home I’m an antisocial loser who’s clean clothes stay in the basket for a week XD) 

Post # 7
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I think she was just trying to look out for you. She probably just doesnt want you to be miserable at work! That being said you need to just prove her wrong! Best of luck! 🙂

Post # 8
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868 posts
Busy bee

@GuyBee24:  yes I guess she’s looking for you to “prove her wrong” she doesn’t really have any history to go on with you in terms of how you are at work so that may take time. HOWEVER. She does not get to belittle you or put you down in anyway. You are trying to better your life and you have to start somewhere, for her to put you down and make you feel terrible is not acceptable behaviour from a partner. Do not entertain these conversations with her. Just do your thing, go to work and keep your chin up!

Post # 10
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@GuyBee24:  I’m glad you’re feeling better, and I hope her faith in you continues to grow.

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