Post # 1
Well today I found out my step brother is getting married!! yay Im very happy for him and his FI. I didnt find out from them or family..from facebook. Ok theyre excited I let that be. Then I find out its two weeks before my wedding and theyre expecting. Still not upset hey she got two presents all in one! I asked my dad if they were paying for it.. he said no I am. That really hurt my feelings ALOT. Because he hasnt helped me at all. He offered to pay for the rental building for my bridal shower that made me happy. My MOH said they needed the money monday so I called my dad and asked if he would like to meet up with me and go pay. He tells me I dont have the money. It was 75 dollars! I didnt mind paying for it because it was so cheap but it still really really hurt my feelings that he is paying for their wedding.We’ve known about the place for two weeks why couldnt he pay it before blowing his money. Brothers FI and parents went to look at dresses today for her.
My sister and I feel as though he has thrown us aside in favor of his wifes kids. Im hurt because he hasnt shown an interest in my wedding at all but is really really excited for them. I cant even talk him in to going and looking at tuxes for him! Everytime I ask him when he’ll be able to Oh I dont know yet. I know I know he doesnt HAVE to pay for my wedding or give me money but wouldnt that hurt your feelings too?
It upset me alot because I feel like my sister and I arent good enough kids for him but we always hear about how perfect my step siblings are. Sorry for the long rant Bees.
Post # 3
Aww that sucks! Weddings are happy occasions, but they often also highlight painful truths in our lives that we’d usually rather not dwell on. I’d say to talk to him and tell him how you feel, but only you know if that would just estrange him more.
It sucks when parents don’t do right by their children (been there); I hope you can put this aside and focus on the relationship you chose instead of the one that came with the deal!
Post # 4
We have something like that happening with our family just different. xD
I am sorry you are going through this, it is not easy and emotions are very conflicting.
You can try talking with your father, but I completely understand if you don’t want to! I surely don’t want to talk to my father-in-law right now. Give yourself sometime to work through these emotions.
Seriously though….that is aggravating and hurtful!
Post # 5
Wow. That truly must be confusing and very painful. I’m so sorry.
I obviously do not know anything about your family situation other than what you’ve written, and I’m trying to come up with some plausible explanations. Is your stepbrother very young perhaps? Would your dad maybe be thinking that you and your FI have more wherewithal to pay for your wedding, vs. a much younger stepbrother who is expecting a child with his now fiancee? Or, perhaps your stepmother brings in most of their combined income, and she is adamant about spending their money to help her son?
Post # 7
I am sorry they are treating you both differently- that is really sad 🙁