(Closed) Feeling a bit left out

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry you feel that way. I can relate. I grew up with my cousins in the same house, and they were like my brothers and sister. I an an only child. I really loved that they were like my family, not just extended family.

Anyway, now we’ve all grown up, and I realized a few year go that I am always excluded from their events, be that Kids birthday parties (I have 3 children I would love to take), major holidays, family get togethers, etc. I don’t know why they do this. I am not a difficult person. I am super friendly and easy going. It sux.

Wow, I totally didn’t mean to make this about me. I just wanted to say, I can relate. Luckily, you have found your perfect match, and you will start your own family with him soon.  🙂

Post # 4
12904 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, that really sucks.  Did you ask your mother why you weren’t invited?  I have a very large extended family, and we always make sure everyone is invited to every event..

Post # 6
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Actually, sometimes i do feel left out..whenever i see pic or status on fb related to some family gathering (like my aunt’s birthday) i get sad..i know that they got togehter because they all live very close by but i am just 20 min drive away! I know, i do not visit as often as i should..but still!

Post # 7
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ChocolateLime:  The distance you live should not be a problem.  A family gathering would be a perfect time for your mother to show off her future SIL. They should have asked/invited you and give you the option to decline. Suks big time.!!

Post # 8
11 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Did you ever turn down an invitation or two in the past? I know that when I get busy with school or and can’t hang out with friends when they invite me(my family are all 3hours+ drive away), they eventually stop inviting me to things. Then I have to make the effort to plan things or invite them to do stuff, becuase otherwise they just assume I’m busy.

An alternative reason may be because you’ve never hosted? I know it sounds petty, but if it seems everyone has taken their turn and you haven’t, maybe theres some resentment you haven’t picked up on?

Just a couple of ideas of things that maybe wouldn’t immediately come to mind that may cause this type of situation.

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