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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    Im 2 months away and I know I should be excited, but im a little sad because it was so hard for us to stick to our budget and we went over it last night and realized that we went over a little bit.  Along the process we kept adding extra people to our guest list and now we are about 20 people over our budget which means we have to skip the centerpieces. We are extemely tight right now, I mean extremely.   Is this normal? I really dont mind skipping them because some people dont even notice it but what do you think?

    If you went to a wedding and there were no centerpieces would you think any less of the bride and groom?  

    Thanks for you help bees!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    No of course not!

    I would talk to the caterer to ask them if they can fill up the center of the table, with bread and butter and salt and pepper, sugar and coffee cups. Often when I go to catered meals there is way too much sh** on the table anyway the centerpiece kinda gets in the way!

     
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    KisMac10    8/14/10   Houston/Boston

    I went to a wedding where they skipped centerpieces and I didn't even notice until the mother of the bride brought it up. Don't lose sleep over it!

     
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    ashleyleah    September 12, 2009   Boston, MA

    Being a guest at a wedding is an honor.  That people want you to bear witness to their commitment means they count you as special in their lives.  For me, that's all that matters about a wedding I attend.  And honestly I can't tell you much about weddings I've been to except what stood out as exceptional.  At M's wedding their seafood appetizer buffet was over the top!  At P's wedding, I LOVED the small intimate space. Did either of them even have centerpieces? I don't remember!  Anything particularly special about your wedding will stand out in your guest's mind... but everything else will be soon forgotten, so don't sweat it, and certainly don't run yourself into a bad debt over it!

     
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    lynnabby       northeast

    I doubt anyone will even notice unless of course they are planning a wedding:)  No one will think less of you.  Totally not important.

     
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    wennies3    May 15, 2010   California

    I know exactly how you are feeling, were going through kind of the same thing. Just an idea...you could buy the silk petals in your color and spread them on the table, that would look pretty and it's simple and cheap. Good luck to you!

     
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    Erisque    November 1, 2009   Baltimore, Maryland

    What's the theme of your wedding? If you're set on centerpieces and have a couple of bucks, you could get some dollar store vases and fill them with some cheap flowers - baby's breath is very inexpensive, or sunflowers (only need one per vase!). Or you could just do photos on each table, or vintage books, or board games...candles are always a good choice, and I've also seen some very cute bowls of fruit.

    If you do decide to skip centerpieces though, I really doubt anyone will notice or care (unless they are currently planning their own wedding!). They didn't come to the wedding to look at the tables, after all!

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    Totally doesn't matter.  One idea is to do family style service. Then the food acts as the centerpieces.  I'm doing this, so our centerpieces will be quite small so everything can fit.

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    @ngolden-you're a genius, I AM doing family style! So the food will be in the middle

    @eris- Im going to the dollar store tonight to see what they have, thanks!

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    Truthfully, I can't remember a single centerpiece from any weddings I have ever been in. I really don't think people notice them! I wouldn't worry about that tiny detail at all!!!!

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    Don't feel sad, I think a lot of us go over budget. I don't think anyone will even notice that there are no centerpieces. Some venues even ofer their clients something they might have; does not hurt to ask.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Honestly, I don't even remember most of the centerpieces at weddings.  I might of even sat at a table without one and I didn't notice.  Its not a big deal.  They're not a necessity.  Having more people is more of a priority to me than the extra frills.  I'm bummed about the money aspect too.  I'm so sick of being broke!  I can't wait to be able to just buy something, without thinking of how it will throw off my whole budget. 

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    @jennifer- we're sick of being broke too, every week we go over our budget and its never the same, we havent eaten so much noodles and mac and cheese in our lives,  we keep having to take away from here and putting it there, its crazy.  I made FI promise me last night that as soon as we get to Jamaica he is going to take me shopping darnit!  

    I just called my florist to tell her we're skipping centerpieces and she said i was crazy because our venue is so beautiful and we cant do without it, I kept telling her I had no choice but it seemed like she thought i was crazy, oh well

     
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    mashka_f1    October 9, 2010   Oklahoma

    I would not worry about it!!! Centerpieces is not a must! Everyone gave you great ideas - i dont think that should be the focal point of the evening. Don't stress over it.

    As for the florist - she is like all the vendors right now - trying to make money. I got into a little argument with a videographer - they want 3000$ for 6 hours! Its crazy i told him, in economy like right now - people are not going to spend 3k on a video!

     
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    peanutlovespumpkin    9-18-10   Los Angeles

    ugh being broke SUCKS ... I agree with the PPs, I didn't even notice centerpieces (or most wedding stuff, actually!) until I was planning one myself so don't sweat it.  Another cheap option in addition to the great ones listed above would be candles; ikea has cheap glass tealights and glass holders, I would guess that you could get more than enough centerpiece stuff for like $50.

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    @mashka- I feel alot better now about not having centerpieces.  Jeez, $3000 for video?! Thats insane! Im paying $1700 for photography, videography and projection here in Boston, wow, hopefully you will find a better deal, I wished my videographer was stillmotion, love this check it out!

    http://vimeo.com/5586983

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    Hi date twin!!  We're on the home stretch!!  Don't worry about it!!  Especially if you're having family style food, NO ONE will notice a lack of centerpieces!  It's definitely not worth stressing about.  I wouldn't notice anyway, and I don't know if I'm typical, but really, I don't think those details are as important to anyone as they are to us.  I would let this one go.  Good luck with the last two months!

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    @mrsmdphd- THanks! You too date twin! Yikeroni! Cant believe its coming so soooooooooooon, this belly of mine just wont go flat! Aaaargh

    Also, my sis got married last year and I honesty dont remember hers, when I look back at the pics I notice them but feel bad not even noticing them at the wedding, but her wedding was wicked dark, mine is in the day

     
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    mrsZ    5/29/10   Ohio

    Hello date twin! I completely understand. We are over budget and I am so burnt out over it that I don't want to buy ANYTHING else for this wedding. I don't even care if the hall is decorated.

    I think it is completely normal to feel sad because your wedding on a budget is always gonna be less than what you want. Of course we all dreamed about a horse drawn pumpkin, right?

    Everything is going to be fine and all you're going to remember is how happy you were and how great it was to see everyone.

    This helps me out when I start to feel like I have to go broke on the wedding.

    http://tackyweddings.com/

    Always know it could be worse.....and hilarious!

     
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    emilymuchnikoff      

    I think everyone there will be so happy to share in your day they will not notice. Our budget is extremely tight too and we are ordering carnations in bulk online and getting vases from the dollar store. You could do tissue paper pomandors on a dowel rod and stick them in a terra cotta pot. Those are time consuming but cheap!

     

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