Post # 1
I am feeling rather sad because tonight I was talking with my sister and it became very real to me that she will not be able to participate in the festivities the way I would like her to. She is due to deliver her son around April 22nd. My wedding is May 5th. Don’t get me wrong I am super duper excited for my nephew to arrive and I would not change that for the world! In addition to my sister delivering just before my wedding she also has some health issues that will make her post partum time quite trying for her (much more so than most new moms) The important thing is for her to take care of herself and the baby. I would never want her to do anything that is going to make things tougher on her. I am no way upset about what is going on in her life. I will be grateful for what time she does get to share with me, my heart is just a bit sad because she is my best friend as well as my sister and I will just miss her. Has anyone else had to deal with a friend/family member not being able to share in your day? What helped you to cope with the situation?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry your sister won’t be there on your wedding day and/or the activities beforehand. I lost my dad two years ago, and it’s still very painful, so I can relate to the anxiety of not having a loved one at your special day.
I don’t know if this option is feasible, but I saw that another bride was going to live-stream her wedding online so that people who couldn’t make the trip could still witness everything. She was using the company below, but I think if you Google “stream my wedding online” or something like that you can find other options.
If this won’t work, can you keep a phone nearby so you can call her and your (by then!) new nephew? If you have a Smartphone, you can download Skype so you can see them both and talk to them.
Best of luck to you, I hope you have a wonderful wedding!
Post # 4
I understand, my sister is my best friend and I would feel the same way if she wasn’t able to be there for all of the pre wedding activities. Will she make it to the ceremony? I sure hope so 🙂
It’s so hard when you wish they could be there for it all, but they have truly legitimate and understandable reasons for not being there. And you know they wish they could be there for you… so there’s nothing to be done or said, you just have to put it out of your mind. I’m sorry to hear it!!!
Post # 5
Has anyone else had to deal with a friend/family member not being able to share in your day? What helped you to cope with the situation?
I will have NO ONE with me with our wedding festvities. NO ONE. Zilch. Is it sad? A little, but I also hate to be an inconvenience to anyone more so.
Since I don’t live near any family and good friends live in other states, no one offered an engagement party, bridal shower or bach parties. No pre wedding festivities at all. It’s how it goes. For our wedding, we have chosen to get married privately at our honeymoon location, but we did have a full wedding event planned which I just undid 2 days ago.
Getting everyone to come to our original wedding which woud have been local to us but a destination for them proved to be more difficult than moving mountains. It’s just too hard for people to come to us, financially, etc.
How do I cope? We’ll I’m a pretty independent person and I’m very used to doing things on my own since I was 18. Luckily FI is the most amazing partner in the world and he makes up for my family’s lack of involvement just by being his awesome self.
Post # 6
My sister didn’t come to my wedding either, but for very different reasons. It makes me kind of sad that she’s not in any of my photos, but it was her choice not to come, I guess…
Just try to focus on all the other joys that come with a wedding. Your sister can’t make it, that’s the reality… just try and keep your chin up and make the best of it anyway.
Post # 7
Thank you everyone. Last night when I posted this is was still a fresh realisation that she will not be as involed as I would like. She will be able to attend the wedding, but she wont be staying long at the reception. I doubt she will attend the rehearsal dinner. She does have good reason for it. I am so looking forward to my little nephew’s arrival! Today I am feeling a little guilty because my fiance is moving here from New Zealand and he will not have a single friend or family member here. My sister will at least be at the wedding along with all of my other friends and family.
@HopingForSnow Thank you. 🙂 at least she will attend the wedding.
@Jody23 I am sorry about your dad 🙁 We are streaming the wedding for his family in London and NZ. I am trying to work all of that out.
@sienna76 That is tough, I am glad to hear that you have such an awesome partner. I need to remember that the important thing is that at the end of the day I will be married to the love of my life.
@deathbydesign Sorry about your sister not attending your wedding 🙁 It is sometimes tough to accept that we are all grown up now and life is taking us in different directions. We are both celebrating big events, Me with my marriage and her with her first child. I think we will just have to be there for each other as much as we can.
Thak you everyone for helping me put it in perspective.
Post # 8
Hey doodlebug, I just got a new nephew 2/15 and another one is coming 3/29! Nieces and nephews for everyone!
You know I also went dress shopping alone and purchsed my dress alone. I guess I don’t realize how odd my situation is until I read about others.
Post # 9
@sienna76: Congrats on the new babies! I spent some time with my sister today and it was so cool watching her belly move and feeling Baby Joshua push against my hand on her belly 🙂
I have done most of my bridal stuff alone. My fiance has been in London so I haven’t even had him here. I looked at wedding dresses alone (although when it came time to try on THE ONE my bestie Laci was with me) I have been to two bridal fairs alone and countless other wedding shopping. At times the being alone bothered me a bit, but most of that I grew accustomed to. That is just how it goes sometimes. A part of me would like to just run away to Hawaii to get married!